Mark Driscoll is one of those guys I just cannot figure out. Despite being only thirty-six years old, he pastors a church of over 3,000 people, is President of a major church-planting network and is considered one of the fifty most influential pastors in America. I am not the only one confused by Driscoll who is varyingly described as emerging, missional, Reformed, sarcastic and vulgar (all of which are true of him). He is immortalized in Don Miller’s Blue Like Jazz as Mark the Cussing Pastor (a title Mark seems to feel is both funny and well-deserved), but is increasingly being asked to speak at events alongside people I simply cannot imagine either cussing or delighting in such a reputation (he will, for example, appear along with John Piper, D.A. Carson and others at the 2006 Desiring God National Conference).
It was with great interest, then, that I began Confessions of a Reformission Rev., a book which is partly autobiographical and partly a biography of Mars Hill Church. And indeed Driscoll and his church are, in many ways, inseparable. The book begins with “Ten Questions,” a chapter which defines various important terms and introduces the concepts Driscoll wrote about in his first book, Radical Reformission. The remainder of the book follows the growth of the church from 0 people to the future where Driscoll hopes to have at least 10,000 people attending each Sunday. The chapter titles and structure are as follows:
- Jesus, Our Offering Was $137 and I Want to Use it to Buy Bullets - 0-45 People
- Jesus, If Anyone Else Calls My House, I May Be Seeing You Real Soon - 45-75 People
- Jesus, Satan Showed Up and I Can’t Find My Cup - 75-150 People
- Jesus, Could You Please Rapture the Charismaniac Lady Who Brings Her Tambourine to Church? - 150-350 People
- Jesus, Why Am I Getting Fatter and Meaner? - 350-1,000 People
- Jesus, Today We Voted to Take a Jackhammer to Your Big Church - 1,000-4,000 People
- Jesus, We’re Loading Our Squirt Guns to Charge Hell Again - 4,000-10,000 People
As is suggested by the title, the book is confessional. Driscoll is transparent in discussing his own shortcomings and failures and in accepting blame for many of the problems the church encountered through the years. He was, after all, immature and unprepared for the task that lay before him. In many ways the church grew through trial and error. Often Driscoll encountered a particular question or problem and wrestled with Scripture to understand what the Bible taught on that subject. He shares many of these in this book. Among the issues he discusses are ecclesiology (the organizational structure of a church), reformed theology, expository preaching, and the role of women in the leadership of the church. On the whole it seems that, when faced with such challenges, he was faithful to Scripture. These times of seeking after God’s will for his church shows that he truly does seek to honor God.
Mark Driscoll was one of the early leaders in what has come to be known as the emerging or emergent church. He is careful to define both terms, suggesting that he still believes in the principles upon which the emerging church was founded, but deliberately separates himself from the emergent crowd and such men as Brian McLaren. On pages 21 and 22 he says that “the emergent church is the latest version of liberalism. The only difference is that old liberalism accomodated modernity and the new liberalism accomodates postmodernity.” As for Driscoll, he “swim[s] in the theologically conservative stream of the emerging church.”
He also discusses issues of cessationism and continuationism, though not in those terms. He comes out clearly in favor of the continuing gifts. “Up to this point,” he says, “I had been basically a theological cessationist and a fan of fundamentalist straw-man attacks on charismatic Christians. It wasn’t until some years later, however, that I came to see the cessationists’ interpretation of 1 Corinthians 12-14 as the second worst exegesis I have ever read, next to that of a Canadian nudist arsonist cult I once did some research one” (121). He often speaks of visions, dreams, healings and prophetic words which continue to guide him to this day.
There is much in this book that is very good. Driscoll has some very good insights into culture, Scripture and human nature. These are just a few of the many quotes I marked as being particularly interesting, thought-provoking or insightful:
- “I’m still not sure if most pastors are aware that their churches are comprised of people they don’t yet know. Those people will never come to the churches, so the pastors need to go to those people” (61).
- “The professor wound up getting divorced a few times, which just proved to me that often people who mess with the Bible want to sin instead of repent, which explains why they bury Scripture under philosophical fads (Rom 1:18)” (78).
- “I was wrestling through some theological issues, such as election, predestination, and other matters generally known as reformed theology. So I taught through the book of Romans on Sunday nights, which helped to clarify our doctrinal convictions as a church and cemented us as a church with a reformed view of God and salvation. If you don’t know what that means, the gist is that you people suck and God saves us from ourselves. For more details, you can read the book I’ll write on it in the future or just accept a plain, literal reading of Romans, particular Romans 9-11” (85).
- “I feared that if we did not put our marriage and children above the demands of the church, we would end up with the lukewarm, distant marriage that so many pastors have because they treat their churches as mistresses that they are more passionate about than their brides” (102).
- “As I studied the Bible, I found more warrant for a church led by unicorns than by majority vote” (103).
Despite the many great quotes, there were a couple which I felt showed lack of discernment in theology, and equally troubling, several that which I felt were in poor taste, displaying the vulgarity for which Driscoll has formed something of a reputation. There are a few that are similar to this, using a pejorative term where a more tasteful one would have been, in my opinion, more appropriate: “Every one of them was older than me, a chronic masturbator, a porn addict, and banging weak-willed girls like a screen door in a stiff breeze…” (128). I also found this one quite disturbing:
This was drilled home for me one night when the church phone in our house rang at some godforsaken hour when I’m not even a Christian, like 3:00 a.m. I answered it in a stupor, and on the other end was some college guy who was crying. I asked him what was wrong, and he said it was an emergency and he really need to talk to me. Trying to muster up my inner pastor, I sat down and tried to pretend I was concerned. I asked him what was wrong, and he rambled for a while about nothing, which usually means that a guy has sinned and is wasting time with dumb chitchat because he’s ashamed to just get to the point and confess. So I interrupted him blurting out, “It’s three a.m., so stop jerking me around. What you have done?”“I masturbated,” he said.
“That’s it?” I said.
“Yes,” he replied. “Tonight I watched a porno and I masturbated.”
“Is the porno over?” I asked.
“Yes,” he said.
“Was it a good porno?” I asked.
He did not reply.
“Well, you’ve already watched the whole porno and tugged your tool, so what am I supposed to do?” I asked.
“I don’t know,” he said. “You are my pastor, so I thought that maybe you could pray for me.”
To be honest, I did not want to pray, so I just said the first thing that came to mind. “Jesus, thank you for not killing him for being a pervert. Amen,” I prayed.
“Alright, well you should sleep good now, so go to bed and don’t call me again tonight because I’m sleeping and you are making me angry,” I said.
“Well, what am I supposed to do now?” he asked.
“You need to stop watching porno and crying like a baby afterward and grow up, man. I don’t have time to be your accountability partner, so you need to be a man and nut up and take care of this yourself. A naked lady is good to look at, so get a job, get a wife, ask her to get naked, and look at her instead. Alright?” I said.
I cannot understand why he feels this type of quote is necessary. While this book is filled with confession, the one thing Driscoll does not seem to regret is his reputation as a loose canon and a man whose mouth is often filthy. I wonder if this will be the subject of another of his biblical studies. I hope it will be, for whatever he may feel he gains through this crudeness, it simply cannot be God-honoring. Scripture affirms many times that what comes out of the mouth is a sure indication of what is in the heart. Thus we have good reason to examine what we say and how we say it, for words are merely symptoms of what lies inside.
In the end analysis, I really did enjoy Confessions of a Reformission Rev.. There is much in this book that is edifying. It helped me understand Mark Driscoll and showed how he grew a megachurch in a largely unchurched city in only eight years. He is clearly a passionate, focused man who is genuinely seeking hard after God. He has much to offer the church. I wonder, though, how long his message will be heard as long as it is wrapped in a sometimes vulgar, always sarcastic, package. It may endear him to some, but it will surely alienate him from far more.

Comments (169) »
1. marc
May 19, 2006
10:36 AM
Tim,
I read the book and those two last examples you cited stood out to me as well. I wonder, while his language/ illustration here is crude, it serves as legit hyperbole. Maybe the frank language will cut through a person’s defenses where other milder words may fail. Just a theory, I’m not advocating this as a means. These are just some thoughts I had after reading those passages last week.
Also, for what its worth, I thought the book was excellent.
2. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
10:49 AM
As I read your post, 1 Corinthians 10:31 came to mind (do all to the glory of God) and Paul’s admonishment that overseers are to be blameless. While no pastor is perfect, I have to admit I am disturbed by some of what I see coming from Driscoll. Some may view it as “being honest and transparent,” and that we need more of that today. I’m sorry, but at least from my take on Scripture, a church leader should be zealous to live as an example before others and be able to say, “Follow me as I follow Christ.” I get the feeling some of what comes from Mark isn’t among the things Mark is picking up from following Christ, but rather, from exposure to the culture around him.
3. gavin brown
May 19, 2006
10:56 AM
I have not read this book, only a few interviews with Driscoll about Mars Hill. He was pretty hard on that college kid. Oviously, his comments were greatly influenced by it being three in the morning, but his sarcastic prayer about God not killing that kis for being a perv was tasteless and sinful, no matter what the time.
4. Kobby
May 19, 2006
10:59 AM
I’LL NEVER READ THAT BOOK. In my opinion, we should be wary of listening to pastors whose main aim for building churces is numbers. Neither should we take seriously a preacher who cusses.
5. wfseube
May 19, 2006
11:00 AM
I cannot understand why he feels this type of quote is necessary.
You don’t understand it because it is NOT necessary. One can express themselves without sarcasm and 4-letter words.
Once upon a time, someone told me that people curse because they’re not smart enough to express themselves in a more appropriate way. My grandfather was an English professor at several colleges & universities, and he was able to win arguments and put people in their places without resorting to such juvenile communication. He wielded the English language as an appropriate weapon without cursing, tearing down, or belittling while making his case.
Those who will justify Driscoll’s method of communication will claim “but it’s how we communicate in our culture”. To that I respond that, as Christians, we are tasked with not conforming to this world. We should be above the world and not try to be like it, particularly in the way we communicate.
Now sit back and watch the smug sympathizers swoop in and say “I told you so! I knew the TRs would criticize Driscoll because of how he communicates”. And I wonder why they thought that? Perhaps because they know in the back of their minds/hearts that it is worthy of criticism? It’s a shame that someone who obviously has good things to say has to express themselves in a way that takes the focus off the content. It’s like good food that is slathered in bad seasoning - it was great until they put all that other gunk on it.
It’ll be interesting to see if Driscoll holds to that form when he’s at the DG conference…
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bill
6. Tim Challies
May 19, 2006
11:13 AM
“It’ll be interesting to see if Driscoll holds to that form when he’s at the DG conference…”
That is a good question. I suspect he will not, which may just prove that his crudeness is some kind of schtick that he can turn on and off at will depending on circumstances.
“Also, for what its worth, I thought the book was excellent.”
As did I, in many ways.
7. David
May 19, 2006
11:16 AM
Speaking of a lack of discernment: I cannot understand why you, Tim, feel this type of language is worth repeating. Frankly, it disturbed me. Perhaps you should consider offering an R-rated edition of your blog.
8. Peter R.
May 19, 2006
11:22 AM
Personally, I see a lot of myself in the pathetic kid who called Driscoll in the middle of the night after watching porn, and I can vouch for the fact that a pastoral kick in the teeth of the sort that Driscoll delivered is exactly what some people need.
The criticism of Driscoll’s word choice is a good indicator of the widespread influence of feminism within the church. We’re more concerned with maintaining polite conversation than we are with confronting and rebuking sin. If you think Driscoll is offensive, go read a literal translation of some of the things God said about Israel through the prophets, or Paul’s letters, or Jesus’ words. Sin is vulgar to God, it should be equally vulgar to us. In my view, Driscoll’s aim is to call the ugliness of these acts out from under their veil of attractiveness, and he succeeds brilliantly.
9. Irish Calvinist
May 19, 2006
11:32 AM
Personally I enjoy a lot of the things that Driscoll has said and written, how he has intentionally and fearlessly brought the gospel to so many who are “alienated” from the evangelical community (i.e. tattoo artists, bar owners, graffiti artists, etc..).
However, the language is curious and unnecessary. He has surely been successful in branding himself with this homiletical vulgarity. I do not know his motives, but do find it distracting from the overall message—it almost becomes entertainment rather than edification�dangerous in light of the calling to herald Christ (2 Tim.4.2; 1 Tim. 4.12,16)
Speaking of discernment. I find it curious as to how Driscoll can be running with the Piper’s, the Carson’s, and the Harris’ while at the same time sharing pulpit space with Robert Schuller (http://theresurgence.com/lunch_with_schullers) and even maintaining a continued partnership with his son. To me this is more troubling than the language, but may be systemic of the larger issue.
-erik-
10. Ochuk
May 19, 2006
11:57 AM
An “R” rating for Challies’ blog?
“No one under 17 may read this post and if you see yourself having lots of “discernment” (read: hypersensitive) you better have your parents read it with you.”
11. Tim Challies
May 19, 2006
11:58 AM
“I cannot understand why you, Tim, feel this type of language is worth repeating. Frankly, it disturbed me. Perhaps you should consider offering an R-rated edition of your blog.”
I actually wasn’t crazy about the idea of reprinting some of it on my site, simply because it is crude. However, I thought that it was worth repeating to prove the point. I apologize if others are offended by this.
12. david
May 19, 2006
12:08 PM
…you need to be a man and nut up and take care of this yourself.
That isn’t just vulgar, it’s horrible theology. A man who is truly regenerate is dependent on God and filled with the Holy Spirit. He is not “taking care of it himself.” What a ridiculous statement and useless, damaging counsel from someone who claims to hold Reformed Theology.
13. wfseube
May 19, 2006
12:12 PM
Peter R. said The criticism of Driscoll’s word choice is a good indicator of the widespread influence of feminism within the church. We’re more concerned with maintaining polite conversation than we are with confronting and rebuking sin.
Baloney. It is a good indicator of the breakdown of civilized discourse in our society. Rather than try to communicate in a measured, polite fashion, people now feel that they must be crude and impolite to make a point. And most people are so desensitized to it, it doesn’t bother them.
To imply that one must curse and speak rudely to “be manly” is sexist, among other things. The perceived need to use trash talk is directly indicative of a lack of vocabulary as much as than anything else. It’s also much like how a child uses 4-letter words to try to be cool. But in the end it simply reveals that one is not adult enough to communicate like an adult.
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bill
14. pr
May 19, 2006
12:17 PM
I am sometimes prone to leap headfirst into Driscoll’s pastoral philosophies. I’ve also been intrigued to read this book. Thanks for the clarifying, outside observation.
15. Kurt Nordstrom
May 19, 2006
12:18 PM
Oh, man. After that excerpt you posted Tim C., I think I have to read that book.
Pure. Gold.
16. Ochuk
May 19, 2006
12:21 PM
How anyone could blame “feminism” for Driscoll’s outrageous public discourse is a commentary in of and itself on what we think feminism really is. In this context, feminism is seen as whatever shuns crass language. Since feminism is bad we need to bring crass language back to counter it.
That is as a melodramatic analysis of public discourse as it is fallacious.
17. Nathan Colquhoun
May 19, 2006
12:25 PM
Good review Tim.
I enjoyed your balanced opinion.
Out of curiousity, why was that quote even there? Was there a point behind it or was he just saying a messed up story for shock value?
18. billmelone
May 19, 2006
12:32 PM
Sorry to disagree, but I looked over the quotes a couple of times, and I’m having a hard time finding what exactly is offensive. Maybe I’m unregenerate but I can’t see how telling a guy to nut up is sinful. And I think thanking God for not killing a guy for being a pervert is a perfect way to shake a guy up into godliness. And its not like he was advocating banging girls—entirely the opposite. I don’t find the quotes here to be tasteless—actually the taste of them is that Mark hates sin.
19. JohnH
May 19, 2006
12:33 PM
David:
You may be reading too much into that phrase: take care of this yourself. It might mean, go repent and read your Bible. Might that be consistent with reformed theology? Without knowing more (he might have had a long history with this person), I think it’s a little over the top to be judging the content of what he said. Perhaps the specific words used, but, aside from that, I personally like the direct approach.
20. Tim Challies
May 19, 2006
12:38 PM
“That isn’t just vulgar, it’s horrible theology.”
In Mark’s defense, this happened early in his career, before he adopted Reformed theology (I think).
“Out of curiousity, why was that quote even there? Was there a point behind it or was he just saying a messed up story for shock value?”
I believe he was attempting to show that he was getting burned out and had overextended himself. He may also have been showing that he wasn’t much of a pastoral pastor.
21. gavin brown
May 19, 2006
12:38 PM
David,
In defense of Tim, its not like these are his quotes. If anything, his review of this book will positively influence you not to waste your money on what you now think is such a terrible book. Lighten up.
22. Phillip Winn
May 19, 2006
12:39 PM
I guess the question for me is, “Who is the intended audience?” If it is other pastors, Driscoll seriously erred in thinking his honesty and vulgarity would endear him to them. I doubt other pastors were his target audience. If it is unchurched people, he will probably have a readership where most preachers never will. It is easy for those in ministry and those who surrounded themselves almost exclusively with Christian to underestimate how much value unchurched people often place on “being one of the guys,” and how many doors that opens to conversation about who really matters, Jesus Christ.
Not the best example of becoming all things to all people, perhaps, and not the answers I would have given or the book I would have written, but it is definitely on my “must read” list. Thanks for the review!
23. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
12:41 PM
Peter R said, “I can vouch for the fact that a pastoral kick in the teeth of the sort that Driscoll delivered is exactly what some people need.”
The manner in which Driscoll conducted himself was not called for. The apostle Paul was stern with plenty of people, giving them so-called pastoral kicks in the teeth, if you want to call them that. But in every admonishment, Paul was blunt yet gracious, never conducting himself in a way that is unseemly for a Christian.
And that it happened at 3:00 a.m. is no excuse. Driscoll’s been a pastor long enough to know better.
24. Tim Challies
May 19, 2006
12:42 PM
“Who is the intended audience?”
That’s a good question. I would think the audience he’d really like to hit is the people who want to be just like him — young men who want to be pastors and who may be looking into his Acts29 church planting network.
25. billmelone
May 19, 2006
12:47 PM
Was the manner in which Paul called for the lopping off of you-know-whats called for? Was it unseemly—especially compared to Driscoll’s words? I don’t see much of a difference.
26. Bill Barnes
May 19, 2006
12:48 PM
Another, very interesting post. It amazes me how I can never read one of Tim’s posts without having to noodle somewhat strenuously over the subject. I also find myself having to look very deep into my own heart to try and understand where I come out. A couple of weeks ago I felt Tim was a bit sanctimonious (I also love the fact that we can use big words on this site) for suggesting it was sinful to watch a movie like “Crash”. Now he’s getting pilloried for quoting bad language. Cool. Having come from a very profane background - 5 years as an infantry officer in the Marine Corps, I would like to say that I think it is completely inappropriate, unbiblical and well, sinful for Driscoll to use the sort of vulgar language he does. But, he seems to be someone who is truly doing the work of the Kingdom. Hmmm…like I say this site finds the ponderous stuff. As for equating masculinity with profane language - say what? No one was more of a man than Jesus and that sort of stuff just never came out of his mouth. Rather, to paraphrase, I would say profanity is the last refuge of the faux macho.
27. bill streger
May 19, 2006
12:51 PM
Tim, is that to say that all Acts 29 guys “want to be just like him”? I’m sure that’s not what you meant.
Mark is a friend of mine, and I’m part of the A29 Network. Good to see the book getting reviews. There were some things I read in the prepublication copy that I weren’t sure would make it past editing but did - and so we end up with a pretty raw, uncensored look at Mark and Mars Hill’s jouney over the past decade. Much of it was not pretty, but was helpful.
As a church planter, it is great to read a guy telling of his failures and shortcomings as well - often church planting books only discuss the high points and ideology. I think in many ways Mark lays out his mistakes and faults (particularly in the early years) as examples of sin and pitfauls to be on guard against - not as a model to be copied.
28. s. zeilenga
May 19, 2006
12:59 PM
I understand what you are all saying about the conduct of a pastor and stuff and, yes, I agree, but I wonder if it was effective.
I mean, if I was that kid, (rude enough to call in the middle of the night) and I had a pastor say that to my face I probably would have agreed with him and gone home kicking myself in the butt. I think the language and the approach can be looked at in hindsight and debated over, but I bet that kid went home with a new insight into his sinfulness.
I mean, I am no pastor, but I had to speak harshly and directly to my friend when I found out he went to a stripclub. Sometimes our flesh gets the better of us and a hard word from a friend, a pastor, or the Holy Spirit is the only thing that will knock us back into line.
I don’t know. I will check out the book though. It sounds interesting for sure.
z.
29. billmelone
May 19, 2006
1:05 PM
Profanity is not the last refuge of the faux macho, sinfulness is. And I haven’t seen anyone equate cussing with macho—its been projected that people will say it but I haven’t seen it. Equating profanity with sinfulness misses the big qualifications of 1) what vulgarness represents (its the heart thats the issue not the vulgarity) 2) a bigger qualification that using God’s name in vain is incredibly worse than 4 letter words. 4 letter words are a matter of culture (though our culture deems some of them mostly unhelpful, so it is probably unneeded, but I wouldn’t say sinful unless you know Mark’s heart was to be overly aggressive—the heart behind it. The heart behind most of what Mark says is not aggression towards people but aggression towards sin).
30. Peter R.
May 19, 2006
1:07 PM
Bill - my point had nothing to do with “manliness” and everything to do with the modern church’s tendency to use a glossed-over vocabulary when we talk about sin. If you do some reading on church history over the past 100 years, you’ll find that this is directly attributable to the rise of feminism in the late 1800s.
And again, I’d encourage you to go read your Bible and pay close attention to the language it uses when talking about human sinfulness and our attempts to reach God through our own effort. Look up the literal meaning of “filthy rags” in Isaiah 64:6. “A screen door in a stiff breeze” pales in comparison.
31. Jabbok
May 19, 2006
1:11 PM
Everything about this angers me.
If the other men you mentioned stand beside this wolf at the next Desiring God conference, I’ll be angered more.
Some folks think that playing the heathen places more authority behind their words of councel. How idiotic.
grrrrr…..
I gotta go….
32. Jonathan Christman
May 19, 2006
1:15 PM
Tim, I have read and profited from his writings. I agree with your assessment. He is often not careful with his speech. I think he is doing the right stuff, I agree with his basic methadology and approach to life and ministry; however I continue to feel that he is the type of person we need to engage and press the typical reformed pastor to consider more radical reformissional ministry and he is not helping his cause when he talks like this. It dissapoints me, because he has so much to offer, and it is not necessary to alienate men who could otherwise be positively influenced. It takes a gracious heart and spirit to read a profit form Mark. He should back off the inflamitory language and he would be even more useful and helpful.
33. david
May 19, 2006
1:17 PM
David:
You may be reading too much into that phrase: take care of this yourself. It might mean, go repent and read your Bible.
Maybe so, but what he meant is entirely irrelevant. What he said is what was heard. If we have to assume he meant something else, then language is useless; and if there is more to the story that would explain it better, it still doesn’t matter. Driscoll didn’t tell that part, so this is all we have to go on.
Furthermore, before Driscoll can tell someone else to “be a man,” he needs to stop talking like an unregenerate adolescent boy and clean up his filthy language.
34. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
1:22 PM
Some here don’t see much of a problem with the way Driscoll speaks or conducts himself—that it’s rather inconsequential in the big scheme of things.
But we cannot forget that that which comes from a man’s mouth is a reflection of the condition of his heart.
And what does come out is oftentimes just the tip of the iceberg.
35. David
May 19, 2006
1:29 PM
Okay, I see that I might (?) have come across as a knee-jerk jerk. Sorry for disrupting the civil tone of the discussions. And I apologize to you, Tim, for what might have been construed as a personal attack. I really do enjoy your writing. I’m a reformed believer (who’d have guessed?), and my “besetting sin” is in the area of lust. I confess that I should have stopped reading at the first offensive word, as words and images like that stick in my mind like molasses. My poorly-communicated point was that I didn’t see the need to reprint the exact phraseology used by the author. Long ago, movie makers panned the camera away from the embracing couple, assuming the audience was intelligent enough to read between the lines. Am I off-base expecting the same from Christian authors? Again, sorry for the fleshly outburst.
36. wfseube
May 19, 2006
1:40 PM
I will prefix this by saying: I struggle with speaking in a crass, profane manner occasionally. It is wrong, and I pray that God will rid me of it eventually. I think it is typical of a persistent sin that Christians sometimes posess - it’s one that I’m attempting to repent of and shake, but God has not yet enabled me to completely get rid of it.
That said, two points:
1) It is quite obvioius from this exchange that Driscoll’s message is sometimes (here, in particular) obscured by the method by which he delivers it. Too bad - I think he has some good things to say. The similarity I was thinking of was that of some of the oafs that frequent the bleachers in major league baseball parks. They hoot and howl and scream obscenities in criticism of players on the field. Do they have a valid point about how xyz player is performing? Yeah, occasionally, but the method of delivery completely obscures any nugget of truth that their diatribes may contain.
I saw this occur recently in a pair of responses from an individual who posts on the Boar’s Head Tavern and a subsequent response from that same individual on David Wayne’s Jollyblogger site. He was commenting on /objecting to the T4G Affirmations & Denials. His response on BHT was rather unkind, uncharitable and unlovingly delivered. However, a couple days later he also posted on Jollyblogger in a way that was totally different and much more civil. And while I disagreed with his point in both cases, I was able to at least listen to (read) what he said in the latter postings. But his manner in the BHT entries was so nasty that I quit reading a few sentences into it.
2) I think we can evaluate our communication by the way it reflects the fruits of the Spirit. Are we being loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, etc. in how we communicate? Take a look again at the quote Tim included from Driscoll’s story. Did he display the Fruits of the Spirit in his exchange with that young man? In my opinion, mostly he did not. I don’t care if you’re Reformed, Calvinist, Arminian, Catholic, etc. (well, I do, but that’s another story…) That standard should stand no matter what.
Again, I will plead guilty on all charges of being uncharitable and unkind occasionally and definitely of not being the best portrayer of the Fruits of the Spirit. But at least I admit that I have a problem… ;-)
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bill
37. Bill Barnes
May 19, 2006
1:49 PM
Peter R./Billmelone:
O.K., I’ll try and find out what filthy rags means, apparently something more profane than “filthy rags”.
Could you help me with what this means:
Colossians 3:8
“But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”
I’ll admit that I do trust in the translators of the NIV. But doesn’t it seem to you that that Paul is prohibiting filthy language? Wouldn’t that mean he views filthy language as a sin?
38. Peter R.
May 19, 2006
1:52 PM
Clearly, Paul didn’t view “filthy” language used in the description of sin to be a sin, since he used it himself with some frequency.
39. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
1:59 PM
Peter: I wasn’t aware paul used filthy language with frequency. You’ll have to enlighten us as to where this happens…
As for Colossians 3:8, Paul clearly condemned “foul-mouthed abuse,” as it could be rendered, or “foul language.” Ephesians 5:4 says “there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or course jesting, which are not fitting,” and Matthew 12:36 says, “Every careless word that men shall speak, they shall render account for it in the day of judgment.”
40. Peter R.
May 19, 2006
2:13 PM
Biblio:
Phillippians 3:8 - what the NIV translates “rubbish” literally means s*** (as in excrement).
There are several examples where he’s talking about circumcision where he uses a term roughly equivalent to d***head.
That’s what I can think of for Paul off the top of my head. I’m sure there are other examples. Additionally, Jesus uses the term s***hole in Mark 7:19, and as I alluded to earlier, there are a number of examples in the prophets where God describes - in graphic detail - the adulterous acts of His people.
I’m not arguing that it’s okay to use the f-bomb when someone cuts you off in traffic. All I’m saying is that, based on the example of the Bible, we aren’t in a position to categorically rule out the use of strong langage when we’re talking about sin.
41. Carla
May 19, 2006
2:17 PM
Tim…
well, I can’t say I’m too surprised. Disgusted? You bet. Instead of ranting here about it I ranted on my own blog.
I can say however, it’s rather disappointing to read here just how many people (professing believers I assume?) don’t have an issue with the way Driscoll speaks.
Something is just very WRONG with that.
Never thought I’d see the day when I had to warn anyone about a link to your blog Tim, but all in all, I’m glad you posted what you did.
SDG…
Carla
42. Kathy
May 19, 2006
2:19 PM
Do these scriptures have any bearing at all on the situation described? Even just a little bit … in any way?
“What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him unclean, but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him unclean.” Mt 15:11
Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. Eph 5:4
Out of the same mouth come praising and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring?
James 3:10
For out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. Mt. 12:34
Nevertheless, God’s solid foundation stands firm, sealed with the inscription: “The Lord knows those who are his” , and “Everyone who confesses the name of the Lord must turn away from wickedness.”
43. Bill Barnes
May 19, 2006
2:24 PM
Peter R.
Alright brother, but I think you might want to consider your position a bit more. So far here’s what I have:
1. It’s O.K. to use filthy language in describing things that are filthy.
2. An example of this is the “filthy rags” in Isaiah.
3. Paul used filthy language frequently.
I don’t see much evidence of “1”. Why does Paul use “fornicators” instead of something far earthier? The Old Testament also uses gentle language to describe quite heinous behavior: Genesis 19:33 “That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and lay with him. ” We are not told, for instance, that “Lot banged his daughters like screen doors”. Forgive me but I am trying to make a point.
I’ll give you “2”. So if you say filthy rags in front of me I won’t be offended.
“3” I just can’t give you, there’s simply no Biblical evidence.
44. Paul Lamey
May 19, 2006
2:26 PM
To the hardened rebel culture of Ephesus Paul said, remember “that night and day for a period of three years I did not cease to admonish each one with tears” and to the folks in the pagan town of Thessalonica he said, “We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone.” This balance seems to be missing from Mr. Driscoll’s program. Maybe the next radical reformission needs to take place in his understanding of pastoral care. I am concerned that young pastors will think that Driscoll is a fine example of how to handle the flock when in fact it is a total disregard of Peter’s exhortation in 1 Peter 5.
45. david
May 19, 2006
2:34 PM
Peter R.,
The claims that Paul or Jesus used vulgar language are old and tiresome. There is no reason to replace what Paul really said with the most vulgar possible replacements. That is, in fact what you are doing.
You wrote:
…there are a number of examples in the prophets where God describes - in graphic detail - the adulterous acts of His people.
Suppose I quote you, but replace “adulterous acts” with a common obscenity. Wow, you have a dirty mouth!
46. Kathy
May 19, 2006
2:34 PM
I found this information on the Christian Courier site:
The Scriptures speak of “filthy” talking (Eph. 5:4). According to Greek authorities (see Baur, Danker, Arndt, Gingrich, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testment, Chicago: University of Chicago, 2000, p. 29), the term “filthy” (aischrotes) entails “behavior that flouts social and moral standards, shamefulness, obscenity” while “shameful speech” (aischrologia - Col. 3:8) denotes “speech of a kind that is generally considered in poor taste, obscene speech, dirty talk.”
“Lascivious” speech (cf. 2 Pet. 2:18) is that designed to conjure up illicit sexual images and ideas. “Corrupt” (morally unwholesome, harmful) communication (Eph. 4:29) is likewise condemned. “Foolish (literally, moronic) talking” is speech that reveals a stupid mentality, while “jesting” suggests off-color humor (cf. Eph. 5:4).
47. joel hunter
May 19, 2006
2:37 PM
I saw this occur recently in a pair of responses from an individual who posts on the Boar’s Head Tavern…. His response on BHT was rather unkind, uncharitable and unlovingly delivered.
bill, that person is me, and I want to make it known that after a few days I addressed this in a follow-up post. You are actually gracious in your qualification of my response as “rather” x, y and z. I appreciate that. We will still disagree, no doubt, about the substance of the matter, but I don’t want to leave the impression with you that I have spoken out of both sides of my mouth or shirked responsibility for my words.
48. Peter R.
May 19, 2006
2:51 PM
Bill, correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t believe I said anywhere that we always must use vulgar terms to describe things that are vulgar. Sometimes the Bibles speaks this way, sometimes it doesn’t. Ergo, sometimes we should speak this way, sometimes we shouldn’t. Regarding your Genesis example, we’d need to look at the original meaning and use of the word we translate “lay with” in order to figure if it’s a vulgar slang term or not. In either case, it really has no bearing on my argument.
David, if what Paul or Jesus really said was vulgar, we should translate it as such. My study of the examples I provided has convinced me that from time to time, they did use language that we would consider offensive. As well they should have, given the subject matter being discussed.
49. Wendy West
May 19, 2006
2:58 PM
Tim:
Thanks for the acknowledgment to those who found Driscoll’s words offensive. It was to me and David and others have pointed out why. I didn’t see much if any scriptural support regarding the “rightness” of such language. Peter R.’s argument is flawed in the sense that it is Paul who condenmed the use of vulgar language. So how can it be that he used it elsewhere. This idea of using vulgarity to reach the vulgar and worldliness to reach the worldly holds no scriptural water. It is a twist of Corinthians 9 and is well entrenched in the CGM and ECM.
My conviction stems from such passages as Phil 4:8; Eph 4:29-5:6; James 1:19, II Tim. 2:14-16. The Holy Spirit convicted me of the sin of hearing and reading such language through these passages. Just what part of “no” do we not understand? (No filthiness, no impurity, no coarse jesting…)
There is another issue I wish to raise in terms of the “to quote or not to quote” issue. It is found within Romans 14: 14 - 15:13 and I Corinthians 10:23-33. In essence these passages teach that the mature believer is to not cause the weaker brother to stumble. Perhaps Tim and others feel at liberty to read and quote vulgar, coarse jesting and impure speech but Paul exhorts those mature believers to set aside such liberty for the “weaker” brother and not cause him to stumble. I fret that any weaker brother who visits here may indeed stumble. Those who follow Christ are called to a higher standard.
One last comment, I await Frank Turk’s take on this post….
Grateful for His Grace.
50. david
May 19, 2006
3:21 PM
David, if what Paul or Jesus really said was vulgar, we should translate it as such. My study of the examples I provided has convinced me that from time to time, they did use language that we would consider offensive. As well they should have, given the subject matter being discussed.
I hardly see how any serious scholarship could lead to either of these conclusions:
1. Paul or Jesus used vulgar language.
2. They “should have”, under any circumstances.
Because,
1. There is no reason to believe that Paul said anything more vulgar than “manure” (not s***), and the same reasoning goes for your other examples, as well.
2. Scriptures have already been quoted in this thread demonstrating that there is never a time when anyone “should have” used foul language. Where does the notion come from that a dirty mouth is necessary to show that one is really, really serious?
Of course, whatever Jesus and Paul said should be translated accurately. Perhaps you can explain to us what you know that every serious Bible translator thus far has missed, because none of them seem to agree with you.
51. wfseube
May 19, 2006
3:23 PM
joel said: bill, that person is me, and I want to make it known that after a few days I addressed this in a follow-up post.
Joel, thank you for posting the followup. I did much appreciate the way you voiced your opinion on Jollyblogger and how you acknowledged how your BHT post may have not been perceived in the greatest of light. If only I would always be that humble! :-)
I really do believe that this is a good illustration of what is in question here - the more gracious and Spirit-filled we are in how we present ourselves, the better our point is received, even if we disagree. Yes, at times Jesus was quite “emphatic” in delivering His message with groups such as the Pharisees, but He is God and delivers His message in a way that is 100% holy. When I deliver my message in a way that appears harsh, it is almost certainly not according to the Holy Spirit and probably not holy.
——
bill
52. Greg in Colorado
May 19, 2006
3:23 PM
I Timothy 4:12
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
As a 37 year old and a pastor (in my 6th year at the same church), I have found that I have not always been the example I was called to be…
I do not have a “rough” background, so I doubt I would ever SAY the things Mark says BUT I can guarantee that I have THOUGHT things about a “pastoral responsibility” that would not be considered gracious, especially when I am tired.
I am not excusing his words. All pastors have a tremendous challenge and responsibility. I may be way off here…it is just my opinion…but I do pray that he will have the discernment and wisdom to continue challenging the “system” without being so controversial.
53. Larry
May 19, 2006
3:29 PM
Interesting review and comments. I have the book, but have not had time to read it yet. I found Mark several years ago and have listened to him fairly religiously since then. In fact, between playing golf, working out, and getting dressed, I have probably heard 90% of his messages in the past two years . I have read Radical Reformission, been to the Acts 29 Boot Camp, and interacted with members of his church. As a fundamentalist, I was definitely out of my element there.
I am concerned by the roughness of Mark’s language. I see no cause for the use of profanity or slang in the pulpit. I would hesitate to read as much into it as some here have. At the same time, he does have a way with words that gets attention and focuses on the real problem. It seems that in recent times he has moderated his use of words that are considered profane. He still walks right on the edge, too much in my estimation. He could do better. The sarcasm is not a problem for the most part. Humor and sarcasm are valid methods of communication. And don’t forget, Scripture uses some pretty rough language.
The story about the midnight phone call is one of the funniest things I have ever heard, and I heard him tell it and I have read it as well. First, consider the point he was making: It is easy to get burned out if you don’t guard yourself and your relationships. Second, consider the theology he was teaching. If you have heard Mark preach, “Deal with it yourself” makes sense. He was essentially repeating 1 Cor 7, that to avoid fornication, get a wife. He has said before that if a single guy struggles with immorality, he doesn’t have a sex problem, he has a marriage problem. God gives wives to deal with that, not midnight phone calls to pastors. Obviously, he is dealing in generalities, not making a statement for everyone. Mark was rough in the way he put it, and perhaps years of passing time cause his presentation of it to be rougher than it was, or perhaps he has matured in this area. And I do think Mark probably uses certain speech for effect, but he is not alone in that. Those on the far other end of the spectrum do the same thing.
Someone mentioned his last address at the Boot Camp in February. It was hands down one of the best addresses on that topic that I have ever heard. It did have his usual over the top banter in it, but it had great insight as to the way that we live our lives and how to evaluate them and pursue things that matter.
He does seem to have a lack of spiritual discernment, in his writings on his blog about Schuller, Dog, Bono, etc. But I think his association with Piper is due to his clear, dynamic exposition of Scripture, and his commitment to theology and ministry. I have not sensed a devotion to numbers. His church has simply grown. I think he says they have never done any advertising, and he preaches very hard, for more than an hour at a time. It is not a textbook way to build a church.
But if you love the gospel, you will be hardpressed to find someone who preaches it more plainly and clearly than Mark does. I don’t agree with some of what he does, nor with some of his theology. But I have benefitted greatly from his ministry. I am looking forward to reading the book.
54. 4ever4given
May 19, 2006
3:35 PM
I started at Carla’s site… read her warning and thought, “It is Challies blog… it can’t be that bad.”
So I read.
I got nauseaus.
I wish I had not read it.
I don’t like things like this in my mind and would prefer to be ignorant.
I wish I would have heeded that warning.
Am I disappointed? yes.
Does that matter to anyone that I am disappointed? not likely (…especially not to Frank Turk).
55. wfseube
May 19, 2006
4:12 PM
For those of you who prefer the “Patton treatment” for sinners, such as that described by Driscoll, can you tell me where Jesus used that technique with sinners? Did he slap them and tell them to “be a man”, or did he act with compassion and tell them to “go and sin no more”?
——
bill
56. sk
May 19, 2006
4:16 PM
“Scripture affirms many times that what comes out of the mouth is a sure indication of what is in the heart.”
Scripture also says don’t be a whited sepulchre, which is what is mostly being promoted when one hears moralists complaining about language.
Scripture also says don’t be lukewarm.
Shocking people awake sometimes requires the use of language in a way that will shock moralists.
57. 4ever4given
May 19, 2006
4:19 PM
Kristie: “Unfortunately we have been so influenced by pop christian psychology that wants us to pamper and baby sexual perversion, that we don’t deal with these things in a more straightforward manner. Or worse yet, we live in a bubble and think this scenario of the young man watching porn is the exception, and we just don’t ever talk about it. “
I so totally disagree with you. We do not need to get vulgar and perverted to deal Biblically with perversion. It is not about being in a “bubble” or thinking that this is an exception to be glossed over. It is about keeping your thoughts pure… and you do not have to become filthy to confront filth.
58. Drew Sauder
May 19, 2006
4:19 PM
I really don’t understand the outcry.
What if we just say “Mark Driscoll is not perfect” and move on with our lives? Why not do this? He’s a sinful human being, just like the rest of us. For that reason, I’m sure he has some good things to say, and some bad things. Let’s thank God for the grace that’s evident and the good work that has been done, pray for it to continue, pray for him and his ministry in whatever ways we think he may need it, and move on.
59. Drew Sauder
May 19, 2006
4:19 PM
I really don’t understand the outcry.
What if we just say “Mark Driscoll is not perfect” and move on with our lives? Why not do this? He’s a sinful human being, just like the rest of us. For that reason, I’m sure he has some good things to say, and some bad things. Let’s thank God for the grace that’s evident and the good work that has been done, pray for it to continue, pray for him and his ministry in whatever ways we think he may need it, and move on.
60. 4ever4given
May 19, 2006
4:27 PM
Because Drew… this has something to do with the seemingly subtle mixture of compromise of truth with truth, “not discerned and distinguished, that the devil has had his greatest advantage against the cause and kingdom of Christ.”
61. david
May 19, 2006
4:41 PM
Shocking people awake sometimes requires the use of language in a way that will shock moralists.
That would be more helpful accompanied by a Scripture reference - one that one that includes profane, obscene, or vulgar language.
Emphatic speach is not the issue, as someone else has pointed out.
62. Kathy
May 19, 2006
4:43 PM
“Scripture also says don’t be a whited sepulchre, which is what is mostly being promoted when one hears moralists complaining about language.”
SK: Will you elaborate on your statement further? How do you know this?
When I read, “Be holy because I am holy” and other scriptures that tell me how to live the Christian life, including what my language should be, I really do want to live that way for God. I don’t do it for show.
I don’t see the authority granted to discount scripture if we think we can get better results another way, although that does seem to be a common practice these days.
63. Wes
May 19, 2006
4:49 PM
‘It (Driscoll’s vulgar speech)may endear him to some, but it will surely alienate him from far more.’ -Tim
It depends on how ‘some’ is defined and how ‘more’ is defined.
I agree, ‘more’ nice, christiany, never laid foot outside of the church people will be hurt by such ‘harsh’ speech, then alienate Driscoll from far more.
I agree ‘more’ non-believing, sinners , believers tired of modern american chrisitianity, will NOT alienate Driscoll because of his speech but instead will invite others to step outside of the camp of the safe language of churchiness.
In spite of all the nice people alienated him from far more because of the tough language, the God-centered gospel is being preached and people are being saved.
64. Wendy West
May 19, 2006
4:55 PM
It is so grievous to me that the Word of God is no longer the standard for Christian behavior. As some are trying to point Scripture never gives a believer the “ollie ollie in free pass” to behave, speak or think like those in the surrounding culture. The very problem with Christianity is we have become so earthly minded as to be no heavenly good.
Romans 12:1-2 indicates that we are not to be conformed to the world, but transformed by the renewing of our minds. In essence, Christians should live differently from they way they lived before they were saved and from those of the WORLD around them. In short, we are NEW creatures in Christ. If the unbeliever can’t tell a difference in us, then we disparage the holiness of Christ.
65. Larry
May 19, 2006
5:07 PM
Wasn’t it Ezekiel who appealed to the genitalia of donkeys and seminal emissions of horses? (Ezek 23:20 for those who are interested). There are some very explicit passages in Scripture. Paul talks off cutting off your genitalia in Gal 5.
That’s not to defend Mark. But those who claim that Scripture never uses straightforward and direct language such as this are simply incorrect.
Mark too often crosses the line. But you don’t have to listen to Mark for very long to realize just how countercultural he is in some ways.
His message to the young man on the phone was “stop. Don’t do it again.” What does the world say? No big deal. Watch porn. Masturbate. Find a girlfriend or boyfriend. So what Driscoll said was very counter cultural, very unlike the world (cf. Rom 12:1-2). His point seemed to be, “Why are you calling me now? If you were serious, you should have looked for help before you did it.” Too many Christians are like the young man. They want a counselor and prayer after its over. We need more people to speak straight. Life is too short to beat around the bush, it seems to me.
Those who want Scripture to defend Driscoll (I have none) will not find Scripture that condemns what he says. You have to take a principle and draw a specific application. That is hardly meeting your own criteria.
So again, I think Driscoll too often crosses the line. I would not be comfortable in his church for many reasons. But I think this world could use more people who are willing to speak truth into people’s lives as Driscoll does.
Just curious … How many of you have listened to him much? Or read his book? I am just wondering how many people are condemning him based on this very small sample that Tim gives.
66. centuri0n
May 19, 2006
5:09 PM
Tim —
I haven’t read Driscoll’s book. It was published at or before his recent rejection of Emergent, and I still have questions about Pastor Driscoll’s, um, sanctification (for lack of a better term).
I think one of my problems, for the record, is that he’s a lot like me. And when you see yourself in the mirror, it’s anot always the most edifying experience — it’s usually a somewhat embarassing experience. You don’t think so? Step in front of the mirror as you get out of the shower and turn sideways.
So anyway, I’ll probably read this book when I get to it. If Tim has a spare copy he wanted to send me to review in comparison to my last review of Mark Driscoll’s work, it might speed up the process … :-)
67. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
5:18 PM
Larry said: “But those who claim that Scripture never uses straightforward and direct language such as this are simply incorrect. “
The issue isn’t whether Scripture uses straightforward or direct language. The issue is whether Scripture uses course or foul language.
Wouldn’t it be hypocritical of God to command us not to use foul language, then He use foul language Himself in Scripture?
68. Brian Thornton
May 19, 2006
5:21 PM
Here we go again…
Trying to do things to help the gospel get accepted…yep…that poor little pathetic, anemic, culturally irrelevant gospel. These people won’t listen to me unless I cuss and swear and sound like the world.
I don’t know what motivates Driscoll, I’ve never read his works, and quite frankly have no desire to. I have enough trouble keeping the world out of my thoughts without having to wade through the worldiness of some hip rev.
Those of you trying to defend Driscoll…shame on you. Take off your post-modern glasses and see the true truth.
69. Larry
May 19, 2006
5:30 PM
The issue isn’t whether Scripture uses straightforward or direct language. The issue is whether Scripture uses course or foul language.
Wouldn’t it be hypocritical of God to command us not to use foul language, then He use foul language Himself in Scripture?
So I gave two passages above that use “course or foul language,” language that you would not accept from your teenager, I am quite sure. But yet God used it.
In answer to your second question, No, it would not be hypocritical. God is God. He does whatever he wants to do, and it is right. And what he commands us to do is what we should do. “He did it first” no more works with God than it does with your children. Since God did use language that most would consider “coarse” or “foul,” your second question actually proves your wrong, it seems to me.
With respect to Brian, “helping the gospel get accepted” is a pretty broad slam. It helps the gospel to “get accepted” when we speak in English (or whatever the native langauge of your audience is). It helps the gospel “get accepted” when you give it to people who are awake and listening to what you said. On the other hand, I don’t think we need profanity, any more than we need top 10 lists, or movie clips. I think we need to preach the gospel straight and clear, to show how it is relevant to every part of our lives.
As I said, I am not defending Driscoll, but you would be hard pressed to find a more clear and direct presentation of the gospel by any preacher anywhere.
Your admission that you have not read or listened to Driscoll tells me that you are unqualified to comment on whether or not he is doing that. You are forming your whole opinion on Tim’s mixed review. So I am not sure what motivates you to speak here on something you are admittedly ignorant on. Care to enlighten us?
70. Larry
May 19, 2006
5:34 PM
BTW, Centurion, this book was not published “at or before his recent rejection of Emergent.” It was published in April 2006 (last month). He has been distancing himself from Emergent for several years. His first book called Radical Reformission was published about a year ago or more, as I recall.
I hesitate to say this much on here because some who don’t read closely will accuse me of defending Driscoll, and I am not (for the third or fourth time). But I have taken the time to expose myself to him and his ministry to learn about it.
71. Larry
May 19, 2006
5:34 PM
BTW, Centurion, this book was not published “at or before his recent rejection of Emergent.” It was published in April 2006 (last month). He has been distancing himself from Emergent for several years. His first book called Radical Reformission was published about a year ago or more, as I recall.
I hesitate to say this much on here because some who don’t read closely will accuse me of defending Driscoll, and I am not (for the third or fourth time). But I have taken the time to expose myself to him and his ministry to learn about it.
And I am as far from postmodern as you can get, Brian.
72. sk
May 19, 2006
5:39 PM
“Scripture also says don’t be a whited sepulchre, which is what is mostly being promoted when one hears moralists complaining about language.”
SK: Will you elaborate on your statement further? How do you know this?
Kathy, it’s not what goes into you that defiles you, it’s what comes out of your heart that defiles you. Being worried about other people’s language is moralism and is not the faith. Yes, you can justify your moralizing and outrage a million different ways now (“Well, I have children, so, excuse me, but I won’t stand for…” etc., etc.)…
It’s shallow and fake to be concerned about other people’s language when your own heart contains the innards of a sepulchre.
Policing language is also a means the world - yes the world - uses to keep Christians lukewarm.
You just have to see where the burden lies. It’s on you, not on ‘others’. Don’t care about other people’s language. It can’t defile you. What is in your heart can defile you.
And remember that language is the most relative thing around. The simple word ‘sir’ can be totally respectful coming out of one mouth and totally sarcastic and mocking coming out of another mouth, with the tone in each case remaining relatively the same. It’s the same word. Some people use language more skillfully and effectively than others and ‘bad words’ out of one mouth may indeed be cheap and vulgar, but don’t take such words off the palette when there are artists around who can use the same colors to God-glorifying effect, even if it’s currently beyond your ability to understand. Don’t worry about what goes into you. It’s what comes out of your heart that defiles you.
73. Allan
May 19, 2006
6:25 PM
“Out of the abundance of the heart……..”
Tim, did you choose to give us two of his quotes on Masturbation, or is it something that Driscoll himself repeats unnecessarily? (Perhaps he has said many other such things but you rightly felt these well described the man’s communicatory ‘wisdom’ (heart?!)
He certainly is the star of his own book, and wants to shock so as to get attention (on himself?)
And even you fell into the trap of giving him (dubious) promotion by saying that ‘HE’ had grown a large church.
Funny, I thought JESUS said, “I WILL BUILD MY CHURCH” and furthermore implied in many ways both verbal and by example that HIS servants would NEVER take the credit from Him and say that in fact THEY had ‘grown’ (built) it.
74. Wendy West
May 19, 2006
6:32 PM
Larry
I guess “tugged your tool” (Mark Driscoll reference to masturbation) is equivalent to Ezekiel 23:20: “She lusted after their paramours, whose flesh is like the flesh of donkeys and whose issue is like the issue of horses?!!!” Are you kidding? By the way Larry you quoted the NIV and there are some people who aren’t King James only but who do take issue with the dynamic equivalents.
And is there any consideration of context? Let’s see Mark Driscoll was talking about porn and asking a congregant if it was “good porn” and Ezekiel is referring to Israel’s spiritual harlotry. Your lack of discernment continues to stun me.
And I get really weary of the “holier than thou” moralist attack. Christians are called to holiness plain and simple. Some of us take that very seriously and literally.
75. greg in Colorado
May 19, 2006
6:33 PM
While many (not all) seeker friendly pastors are ridding their worship centers, I mean sanctuaries, I mean auditoriums of the CROSS and the message of the cross to appeal to the “needs” and “desires” of the seeker without EVER clearly explaining how LOST, DEAD in their SIN AND ETERANLLY CONDEMNED each and every person is before a holy GOD, I am reminded that Paul rejoiced in Philippians 1:18:
“What then? Only that in every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is preached; and in this I rejoice, yes and will rejoice.”
Larry is right. I have read the Radical Reformission and am familiar with Mark’s ministry.
Brothers and Sisters, Mark Driscoll preaches the TRUE GOSPEL.
Let us at least rejoice in that and let God sort out the motivation and the distaste we might have in the total package. I too am not defending him, but I can tell you there are FAR WORSE men pretending to preach the gospel, who water it down so much, no one would ever suspect they have something terribly wrong in their lives that separates them and makes them an enemy of God.
Mark WILL stand before the Lord and give an account of every word and every deed as will you and I.
Mark is not ashamed of the gospel. Are we? How many pastors will stand in judgment of Mark, condemning him for his actions and words all the while they compromise and preach another gospel?
Who gets anathamized in Scripture? Those who maybe need to mature a little but preach the gospel OR those who look and act mature but don’t preach the gospel?
76. david
May 19, 2006
6:34 PM
But those who claim that Scripture never uses straightforward and direct language such as this are simply incorrect.
No one has made such a claim (as has been stated at least twice already), so let’s do away with that red herring. The issue is filthy language, which Scripture deals with very clearly.
This is also not about policing language. If you think you’re more eloquent with filth on your tongue, cuss away. However, policing language (and other sinful behavior) has its place. Read Matthew 18. If Driscoll used that language in this forum, it would be censored, and any church that practices Biblical discipline would discipline him for it.
Meanwhile, the world laughs when they hear one who claims to be a Christian talk just like they do.
77. Debbie
May 19, 2006
6:45 PM
This is a perplexing discussion. The subject matter would be offensive to most of the women I know Christian or not. I was quite shocked to read this post and I pray that Tim would delete the offensive material. It is not necessary to be this graphic to make the point.
78. Brian Thornton
May 19, 2006
6:53 PM
Your admission that you have not read or listened to Driscoll tells me that you are unqualified to comment on whether or not he is doing that. You are forming your whole opinion on Tim’s mixed review. So I am not sure what motivates you to speak here on something you are admittedly ignorant on. Care to enlighten us?
I don’t have to drink poison, either, to know that it is harmful to me.
No, I haven’t read the entirety of Dricoll’s works, but I don’t think that disqualifies me from commenting. And I did NOT form my opinion from Tim’s review…I formed my opinion from the quotes of Driscoll. So, unless, Tim misquoted him, I have plenty there to form an opinion.
And, to correct your assertion…I HAVE read Driscoll, just not ALL of what he has written…but believe me…the little bit that Tim posted in his comments is all I need to discern that he is not worth the time…no matter whatever else he has to say.
I only have so much time here on this planet to live for my Lord…why would I want to waste some of it having to wade through and filter out the kind of garbage Tim quoted? I can get the same truth (whatever of it Driscoll professes) from other teachers who don’t have to stoop to the word antics that Driscoll does.
Thanks, but no thanks.
79. sk
May 19, 2006
7:02 PM
David, as Bunyan tried to teach Christians, the Village of Morality is not on the Way that leads to the Celestial City but is a detour and a dead end.
80. Bibliomaniac
May 19, 2006
7:17 PM
Larry said: In answer to your second question, No, it would not be hypocritical. God is God. He does whatever he wants to do, and it is right. And what he commands us to do is what we should do. “He did it first” no more works with God than it does with your children. Since God did use language that most would consider “coarse” or “foul,” your second question actually proves your wrong, it seems to me.
Very briefly: If using course language is a sin, and you accuse God of having used course language, you’ve just accused God of participating in sin. Yet He cannot and will not do that. To advocate God can do things He forbids us to do is poor theology and a pretty low view of God.
While the Bible does actually describe course and reprehensible things, it doesn’t violate its own commands regarding foul language. Just as in English we have appropriate words for describing course things, and we have inappropriate words for describing course things.
81. Carla
May 19, 2006
7:24 PM
Daniel at duologos recently posted about this kind of language - and I said there what I will repeat here:
EVERY time a Christian speaks up about offensive, vulgar, profane, disgusting speech coming from other Christians, the ones speaking up about it are the ones who become the villians.
Good grief, have we all lost our minds? How can anyone professing Christ sit there and defend this kind of language?
It boggles the mind, to be sure.
Just for the record, for those of you that have spoken out against this, there are others out there that share your convictions over what the Scriptures say about holiness and filthy communication.
SDG…
82. sk
May 19, 2006
7:44 PM
“EVERY time a Christian speaks up about offensive, vulgar, profane, disgusting speech”
And to self-justify your desire to moralize you cast what has been said into such absolute degree. Did Driscoll praise genocide as well?
Listen, both sides of this subject need to be stated. Moralizing is not the faith, and common, useless, vulgar language is no more useful to anything than the body odor of those who refuse to bathe. The body odor though has nothing to do with the faith and with what is in your own heart. It can’t defile you like your own heart either.
83. Jabbok
May 19, 2006
8:09 PM
Kristie said,
What i’d like to hear is what you all think Driscoll should have said?
This will probably start a new wave of discussion but I think Kristie asks a valid question.
Driscoll should have told this young man that sins committed in secret should be confessed to the Lord privately. God does not require us to hang our dirty sheets on a line for all to see.
He should have told him that these temptations are not unique to him and the Bible tells us to flee youthful lusts.
He should have told him that Christ already suffered for his sin and it serves no end to beat yourself up over something you’ve done. Repent, confess and trust in the goodness and forgiveness of the Lord.
84. Dan Hames
May 19, 2006
8:19 PM
I’m a little bit surprised that people are claiming to be nauseated and disgusted and shocked to see these quotes from Mark Driscoll. If we are living in the world, we ought to be ready to meet this kind of talk. We can’t afford to be so surprised about it.
That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t see it as sinful, and therefore hate it; I’m not justifying it, and I don’t think it’s the kind of language that ought to come from the pulpit or from a leader to his sheep. But let’s not pretend that such language doesn’t exist: whether it comes from Mark Driscoll or the kids in bars in town.
Language is arbitrary in some ways. There are some words that will not offend my friends or parents, but would mortify my grandparents. Most words have a whole range of varying degrees of social unacceptability and we all draw lines in different places as to where they stop being ok to use. Poop… crap… where do I stop? Some of you are already offended that I used those two words- some of you think they aren’t rude at all. It’s not very easy to measure. Language CAN be relative. What IS absolute is my intention. If my intention is to talk about subjects that are unhelpful, or make jokes that are crude, then whatever language I use, I’m sinning. It’s possible to tell an awfully rude joke with a perfectly clean and respectable choice of words!
I personally wouldn’t use Mark’s language here, but he is nonethess simply addressing the subject with someone who struggles with it; it’s not joking or loose talk. He’s using expression that is relative and probably that the young guy can relate to.
I think that publishing that in a book is another matter- it WILL undoubtedly offend people, so I think that was a silly thing to do.
Sorry for the slightly random nature of this comment- it’s late!
85. david
May 19, 2006
8:20 PM
David, as Bunyan tried to teach Christians, the Village of Morality is not on the Way that leads to the Celestial City but is a detour and a dead end.
Please, do try to stay on topic.
The issue is not whether obedience to Scripture is a ground of justification, but whether filthy talk is sin, and whether a Christian can, for any reason, justify his sin.
Those questions have been answered well by a few people. I’m sure there are several more “yeah, but…” statements to come, but they’ve been answered.
86. david
May 19, 2006
8:24 PM
I’ll second Jabbok’s comment. That is a Biblical, pastoral answer.
87. sk
May 19, 2006
8:28 PM
Sure, it’s off topic, right. The fact is, there are many, many self-identified Christians who are stuck in the Village of Morality and think that is the faith. The practical negative effect is it keeps you from the efforts necessary in your own active, progressive sanctification. Bunyan knew it and described it. It is universal for all time and for human nature in general.
88. Larry
May 19, 2006
8:35 PM
Wendy,
It would be greatly helpful if you would either carefully, or stay out of this conversation. I have not defended mark’s choice of words. I merely pointed out that Scripture says some things that would be very distasteful in modern conversation. And the NIV hit the nail on the head in its translation.
And what I begged you to do was consider the context. Driscoll was talking to a young man who willfully and repeatedly (most likely) involved himself in porn, then called after it was over for prayer. What did he want prayer about then? It’s too late. And that’s exactly what Mark said. He also told the guy how to deal with it.
You say I lack discernment. How so? I have merely clarified some errors in thinking and accusations that were being made here. That is hardly a lack of discernment. I have said several times that Mark is over the top with his language. It is unnecessary and inappropriate. I don’t know how to make it any clearer. So please read more carefully.
89. Lisa
May 19, 2006
8:40 PM
I am not here to stroke Carla’s back… but that woman often speaks my mind way better than I do.
(If I could only sit and chat with that girl face to face!!!)
I understand your concern Kristie, regarding the masturbation thing. It is sin that needs to be confronted… but again, we do not have to confront filth with filth… and that is what Driscoll has done, and apparently does on a continual basis. The concern on this thred is rightly the Biblical approach to such necessary confrontation.
YES we should confront sin BOLDLY with LOVE. He confronted that guys garbage with more garbage. A tainted truth is not truth.
What I mean is this, “If I profess with the loudest voice and clearest expression every portion of the truth of God except precisely that little point which the world and the devil are at that moment attacking, I am not confessing Christ however boldly I may be professing Christ. Where the battle rages, there the loyalty of the soldier is proved, and to be steady on all the battlefield besides, is mere flight and disgrace, if he flinches at that point.” -Martin Luther
Driscoll is taking on the appearance of the world in his use of crude words and illustrations and the world LOVES IT…
If you think God NEEDS anything, anyone… you are off the mark. God desires for us to be holy, and obedient, and like His Son.. to be full of compassion and a love for Him so overflowing that we CANNOT HELP but share the only source of hope. Yes, some people need to be hit upside the head with the obvious… but even that can be done in love without being profane. Ah… the need for discernment…
Confusing the goal to be holy with holier than thou morality is lame. That is SO not what this is about. This is NOT about “legalism”, this IS about defending the truth for the sake of the Holy Gospel of truth out of love for the one who first loved me. No, I cannot stand it when people candy-coat the truth. We are called to be discerning, to judge righteously and to boldly, out of love refute error and sin without compromise truth… without compromising the character of Christ.
90. Larry
May 19, 2006
8:41 PM
If using course language is a sin, and you accuse God of having used course language, you’ve just accused God of participating in sin. Yet He cannot and will not do that. To advocate God can do things He forbids us to do is poor theology and a pretty low view of God
I am not the one who said that “coarse language” is a sin. That was someone else. I simply quoted where God used language that would be considered coarse. I agree with you that While the Bible does actually describe course and reprehensible things, it doesn’t violate its own commands regarding foul language. So please be careful to respond to what is actually said.
To the point directly, “coarse” language is often a matter of context. I would not say what Mark said. I would not defend it. It was out of line (why do I have to keep repeating myself here … Please learn to read accurately).
91. Kathy
May 19, 2006
8:57 PM
SK,
So, if I comment on someone else’s bad language
(believing such language is wrong), I am what you negatively call a “moralist”, but if you point out that I’m pointing out someone else’s bad language (believing that pointing out such language is the true sin), then are you not a moralist yourself? I’m not even sure that I’m upset that you think I’m a moralist. My dictionary says a moralist is a teacher or student of ethics.
But, you must recognize that you are doing the very same thing that you think is wrong. You are looking at other people’s behavior and commenting on it, instead of being ONLY concerned with your OWN behavior, as you previously stated was the right thing to do.
We can’t just look at our hearts ourselves to see who we are. What comes out of our mouths gives us a big hint of who we truly are: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Jer. 17:9
92. Mark Lauterbach
May 19, 2006
8:57 PM
Tim
Looks like you hit a nerve!!
Excellent and fair post. This is certainly a case of a man with clear orthodoxy and a commitment to godliness whose life, in use of language, is crude. God owns his ministry and those whom I respect and have seen it would say the same. What are we to make of this?
Here is an interesting subject to blog about — what language is prohibited by Scripture? I ask that because I have read the OT in the Hebrew and read Luther too. If one reads Song of Solomon literally, it is pretty earthy. Our translators tone it down a great deal. And Luther is Luther. Not that this would excuse sin.
Where do we derive our standards for profanity and crudeness? What are the specific rules of Scripture? What has been the thought of history on this — go to godly men outside of American culture and see what they say.
I am not advocating a position, just raising a question.
I would also encourage a personal note to Mark Driscoll. I think that if we will take on someone’s book in public, we owe them a place to hear our concerns in private first.
Mark
93. Larry
May 19, 2006
8:58 PM
I think Mark’s post presents a topic worthy fo discussion: What language is prohibited by Scripture. Where do we derive our standards?
We have had a lot of people throwing “holiness” around, but very few defending it with the actual use of Scripture.
94. Kenny Archbold
May 19, 2006
9:13 PM
In the name of being open and honest and transparent when we all get together in God’s great and Holy Kingdom of Heaven and we are all sitting around discussing how thankful we all are for God’s infinite grace and mercy towards us will it be necessary (remember we are being “open and honest and transparent” here) for us to describe our sinful state in such extremely vulgar terms:
I used to @!### *$#@@ **!!! (edited for content)when I was a sinner and I praise God for redeeming me from all that @@!**##.
Then why do so many people try so desperately hard to justify it now. Thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Have we absolutely no shame ? Has Christianity lost all its inhibitions?
95. Scott
May 19, 2006
9:14 PM
“You need to stop watching porno and crying like a baby afterward and grow up, man. I don’t have time to be your accountability partner, so you need to be a man and nut up and take care of this yourself. A naked lady is good to look at, so get a job, get a wife, ask her to get naked, and look at her instead. Alright?” I said.
So his answer to porn is to trade porn for a wife? Just have the same attitude about your wife that you have toward the porn star? Is this guy married and still alive?
96. sk
May 19, 2006
9:35 PM<