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08/08/07
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My Best Friend's Wedding

Nine years ago, on this very day, my best friend got married. It was one of the first weddings I had ever been to and I remember it well. It was a beautiful wedding, I thought, exactly the kind I might have planned. It was simple but dignified, homespun but not cheap. The mother of the bride had not only arranged all of the arrangements and bouquets, but had even grown the flowers, having planned for this day since the spring. A small greenhouse in the backyard, specially constructed by the bride’s father, had made it possible to grow some beautiful flowers. The cake was wonderful and also a creation of the mother of the bride.

The bride was beautiful, of course, and was glowing with joy from the moment we first saw her as she walked into the church. Not one to want to be the center of attention, she was shy but happy to have her turn being the bride. It was her day more than anyone else’s.

The day was hot. In fact, talking to people who had been at my best friend’s wedding, the heat is one of the things they remember most. The ceremony had taken place in a beautiful, historic Anglican church with a grand pipe organ that had been played by a very skillful organist. The wedding began in the morning so it was not too hot in shelter of the great stones that made up the church. The couple was married in a traditional Christian ceremony and then moved to a nearby old town hall, another historic building, though one without air conditioning. The photos for the day show the groomsmen wearing tuxedos to begin the reception, and then only vests, and then only shirts. Faces got redder and redder as morning turned into afternoon. But no one seemed to mind. The speeches were fun and dignified, the reception short but meaningful. And then the bride and groom were gone, off to begin their new lives together. It truly was a great day.

It’s been nine years and my best friend is still happy, and in fact, happier than on that day. Life has thrown that couple a few curves but they love each other more today than they did even on a day as memorable as that one. God has been good to them. God has blessed my best friend and, in fact, has blessed me through my best friend. He has been at the very center of that relationship since the first day, binding the two together.

I remember my best friend’s wedding like it was yesterday. And really it sometimes almost seems that it was just a few days ago that they walked up that aisle; that we walked up the aisle and into a new life. Because on this day, nine short years ago, my best friend married me.

Happy nine, my love.

My Best Friend's Wedding

Comments (24) »


1. drareg
August 8, 2007
10:45 AM

Congratulations! Praise God!


2. Danny Slavich
August 8, 2007
10:56 AM

I really enjoyed this post. It was creative and moving.

Congratulations on nine years!


3. Glenn
August 8, 2007
10:59 AM

Congratulations! Great post, and a great start for the next nine! May God continue to richly bless the Challies with His Great Grace.

Under the Mercy,

Glenn


4. april
August 8, 2007
11:07 AM

Man, now I’m all teary. Thanks a lot, Tim!

Truly, that was beautiful. May God continue to richly bless your marriage.


5. thecuttingtruth
August 8, 2007
11:47 AM

I enjoyed reading this post. clever and poignant.


6. David
August 8, 2007
11:49 AM

Thank you for sharing, Tim. I am encouraged by your love and faith.


7. candyinsierras
August 8, 2007
12:07 PM

Congratulations! My reticent New Englander husband asked me to read this post this morning. He had tears in his eyes and I admit I did too.


8. Jana
August 8, 2007
12:17 PM

What a great post. So sweet…made me smile. :) Blessings!


9. Jeri
August 8, 2007
12:52 PM

Happy anniversary, Tim and Aileen. We thank God for you!


10. Ivan
August 8, 2007
1:14 PM

Congratulations Tim (and Aileen, of course).


11. JeanT
August 8, 2007
1:44 PM

That was so lovely! Thanks for sharing… and not forgetting happy & blessed 9th anniversary to you and your wife!


12. julana
August 8, 2007
2:45 PM

happy anniversary!


13. LisaP
August 8, 2007
2:48 PM

Beautiful! I enjoy your writing so much. Appreciate your heart and willingness to share. Congratulations…and thank you.


14. JerryB
August 8, 2007
3:19 PM

Happy Ninth Tim and Aileen! :)


15. diane
August 8, 2007
3:50 PM

I actually didn’t see that coming! :) It brought tears to my eyes. Happy Anniversary to you both!!!!


16. David Giarrizzo
August 8, 2007
4:44 PM

Tim, I praise the Lord with you and your wife. May our gracious Father continue to bless both of you in your walk together. Thank you for your ministry through the blogosphere, and thank your wife allowing you the time that you put into this blog.

Many more to you!

-DG


17. JC
August 8, 2007
7:57 PM

You’ve got writing style. This post was so good, it read like fiction!

Wishing Wed Ding a happy 9th birthday.


18. George Andres
August 8, 2007
11:00 PM

Beautiful, beautiful. May our gracious Lord grant you many many more years together.

George


19. Randy Hurst
August 8, 2007
11:17 PM

This one will get a wide audience. I’m forwarding the link to everyone I know. Keep up the good marriage.


20. Susanna
August 8, 2007
11:20 PM

I remember that day too and I don’t remember how hot it was…I remember what a beautiful couple came together to become one! I also remember how excited I was to get a new sister!:) Congratulations!


21. Jennifer
August 9, 2007
12:36 PM

As a teacher of English AND a new bride I say: “TOUCHING POST!”

May God richly bless the next nine, and the next, and the next……


22. lisa
August 10, 2007
5:58 PM

So sweet… I am married to my best friend, too. My husband, my hero.


23. Anna
August 10, 2007
6:05 PM

I’ll add my congratulations to the mix. This is so sweet. Happy anniversary!


24. Michael Sampson
August 17, 2007
12:45 AM

Outstanding writing! And congrats on 9 years. My 13th is on Monday, and I wish I could just lift your post and change 9 to 13 and post it my blog. I agree with everything you’ve written in my context.

Anyhoo, again, congrats!