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12/09/07
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The Christmas Tablecloth

On Friday evening the menfolk and womenfolk of this household went separate ways. I took my son upstairs and he and I continued playing a computer game he enjoys, saving the world from tyranny. We were sure that this was much more important than what the ladies were doing. Aileen and the girls stayed downstairs and began getting the house into the Christmas spirit. A couple of hours later, with the threat of evil worldwide domination thoroughly vanquished, my son and I returned downstairs to find the house transformed. The Christmas tree was decorated and popcorn strings were almost finished being strung together. Christmas lights and garlands were wrapped around the handrail from upstairs to downstairs. I was pleased. I know how much it means to Aileen to keep the house “seasonal.”

It was not until later that night, as I was turning out lights and locking doors right before heading to bed, that I noticed that Aileen had put a Christmas tablecloth on the kitchen table. I don’t know why, but for some reason seeing that just made my night (and, by Aileen’s own admission, it’s not even a very nice tablecloth). I went to bed that night, just praising God for my wife. As she lay beside me, fast asleep and breathing softly, I was filled with gratitude that God has given her such a desire to tend to our home.

If I were a single guy, I’m quite sure that it would not occur to me to decorate the house for Christmas. I definitely would not have a Christmas tablecloth for my kitchen table. In fact, I probably wouldn’t have or need a table since I’d likely just eat takeout at my desk every day while working 16-hour days. I wouldn’t decorate for Christmas because Christmas decorations don’t mean anything to me.

Or that’s what I thought. But that silly tablecloth told me that they do mean something to me. In that tablecloth and in those decorations I see my wife’s desire and her ability to make this season special. I see her God-given ability to do something I cannot do—make this house a home.

The Christmas Tablecloth

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1. Mrs. J.D.Darr
December 9, 2007
5:45 PM

Tim,

How wonderful that you celebrate your wife! I was so happy reading of your day with your sweet wife and kids. May God bless you and keep you and May His face be turned towards you all. (Jewish Prayer)

Love, The Darr’s


2. Matthew Hosier
December 9, 2007
6:09 PM

It is amazing how often we can overlook the most profound things because they seem so commonplace. I have been blogging about food recently because it is so central to what we do at Christmas, but so rarely gets thought through theologically. Just as a tablecloth prompts you to think of the excellencies of your wife, so every bite we eat should turn our thoughts towards the excellence of God.


3. Gean Ann Nelson
December 9, 2007
9:36 PM

Our son is planning to be married soon and his intended was at our kitchen table this afternoon, where she and I were painting ornaments we had made. My son, bursting with pride, commented on how lovely her work is. He ignored mine, but that’s okay, because my husband is lavish with his praise. My smiles came then as I watched him praise her but again just now after reading your essay, I realize how broken are the apron strings between my sweet son and me and how much he looks forward to that sweet girl making his home for him. How grateful I am to the work of God in her, that she wants to make a home, to the work of God in him, that he knew what to look for in a wife. To the work of God in my husband and me, that His word taught us how to establish and build our home.


4. Shannon
December 9, 2007
10:04 PM

That may be one of the sweetest things I’ve ever read!


5. Grace
December 10, 2007
7:56 AM

What a nice post Tim!!!! I wish I could see your house all decorated…can’t wait to see you guys!


6. David Zavadil
December 10, 2007
9:43 AM

Tim, Thank you for reminding me of the Christmas Spirit. I pray that your wife read this post, it is a scrapbook keeper. I am challenged to find that one thing to hug my wife over. She does so much that I take for granted. Thanks for the fine example.


7. Vanessa Fernandez
December 10, 2007
9:58 AM

Thank you so much for posting this. I have recently been struggling with thinking that what I do as a wife isn’t very important. Especially after seeing my sister blow hundreds away at her christmas musical recital. This post reminded me that the little things I do for my family - like decorate for Christmas - are important and pleasing to God. Embracing and enjoying my role is important - may God receive the glory from it.


8. Dan Sudfeld
December 10, 2007
10:17 AM

I took my son upstairs and he and I continued playing a computer game he enjoys

Ya, right! :-)


9. bchallies
December 10, 2007
5:42 PM

God has given you a wonderful wife, Tim!