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Sunday October 5, 2008

The Dream is Over. The Endless Day Has Begun.

I’ve met Terry Stauffer a few times—at Together for the Gospel and at least one or two other conferences. He has been a regular commenter at this blog and maintains a blog of his own. He serves as pastor of Edson Baptist Church in Edson, Alberta. Earlier this week I was shocked to receive an email from my pastor pointing to this entry on Terry’s blog. “Last night at about 4:45 our precious 14 year-old daughter Emily was attacked and killed as she was out for a walk. We don’t know a lot of details, but we know that two young men came upon the scene right away, but it was too late for Emily.” On Friday the Staffer’s celebrated Emily’s life and said their goodbyes to her.

Capture.JPGThrough it all, the Stauffer’s have, at least publicly, been pillars of strength; they have been showing such clear evidence of the grace of God in their lives. They have been quoted widely in the media and clips from the funeral have been broadcast across the nation.

Here are a few words from the grieving mother:

“If it was not for the prayers of God’s people and for the arms of God holding us up, we would be puddles on the floor. God gives strength to the weak, and we are weak,” said Emily’s mother, Juanita Stauffer.

“I heard about another father this week, who said he gave the eulogy for a child, and he said, ‘You know it wasn’t hard. I could talk about my child forever.’ And when I heard that, I thought, that is so true. I could talk about Emily for a long time, and I probably will,” she said.

And from heart-broken father:

“Emily loved Jesus. But now her faith has turned to sight,” he said. “The dream is over. The endless day has begun.”

“When Emily’s death was confirmed on Saturday night, I was shocked and bewildered. And when I got on my knees, all I could pray was, ‘Oh Lord, help, help, help,’” he said.

“But right into that, one of my first thoughts was, ‘If this gospel I’ve been preaching is not true today, it was never true at all.’”

God is carrying us. He is using our family, church family and friends. God is also carrying us by His promises which were precious last week and tested and precious this week.

That gospel he has preached for so many years is true; it is the gospel that saved Emily, the gospel that will sustain this family without her, and the gospel that will reunite them in that endless day. May God continue to bless and to sustain the Stauffers and may He continue to magnify Himself through them.

Comments (13) »


1. Heather
October 5, 2008
3:36 PM

That comment “‘If this gospel I’ve been preaching is not true today, it was never true at all.’” is so very true.

My son was killed in a car wreck 5 years ago. I remember thinking a very similar thing. “this is where the rubber meets the road - am I gonna trust God now when things are horirble? or am I gonna say, this didn’t go *MY* way, I don’t believe in Him anymore.”

My husbands reaction was similar. “If I’m going to trust God with my life and AJ’s life, I have to trust HIM in his death”.

And God IS faithful. And the Gospel IS true.


2. Chelsey
October 5, 2008
4:56 PM

Probably because of all the information and stuff that is thrown at me each day, I don’t often “feel” very much when I read about death online. This is not a good thing.

But when I went to Mr. Stauffer’s blog earlier this week and saw the news of his daughter’s death, I almost burst into tears. I’m thankful God touched my heart in that moment so that I was able to pray for them. My sister is 14, and I forced myself to try to imagine how I would feel. I know I can’t imagine the pain.

At the same time, I’m so thankful to God for giving them strength. Soli Deo gloria!


3. Jody
October 5, 2008
5:07 PM

I read some the fathers’ blog. His comment about God being good now just as He was in their blessed marriage, life, etc. resonates with me. Praying for this precious father and shepherd.


4. Ian Clary
October 5, 2008
5:58 PM

Thank you for this Tim.


5. bchallies
October 5, 2008
6:31 PM

May God bless and comfort them all richly and mightily…


6. Reg W Schofield
October 5, 2008
9:49 PM

May God continue to strengthen them as they deal with this tragic loss .


7. Truth Unites... and Divides
October 6, 2008
12:28 AM

Although I don’t know the Stauffers, my heart grieves for them, and I praise and honor them for their faith and honor of God during this difficult time.


8. Jason Nolte
October 6, 2008
8:18 AM

When my daughter died during an open heart surgery six years ago this month I had no idea how I was going to keep my own eyes on Christ much less lead my family to do the same.
My wife told a pastor friend of ours years later in discussion about doctrine and how some with in Christiandom think that doctrine in dry and unnecessary that it was our doctrine that got us through that storm. We had believed and preached for years that God was Sovereign, mercifull, loving, omniscient, graceful, etc. Now it was time to stand upon those truths. And it was those truths about our Loving Heavenly Father that to this day sustain us.
My advice to the Stauffers and to their church family is to always talk about their precious little girl. Never stop talking about her and her God who is still on the Throne. Still omnipotent, sovereign, and loving.
We will be praying for them.


9. Tom Sadowski
October 6, 2008
9:39 AM

Just sort of “happened upon” this website, and this story, in a roundabout sort of way this morning, here in Denton, TX, where I live with my wife and six, precious children. I can do no better than quote the familiar line from a great hymn, that immediately came to mind as I just now read about the Stauffers’ great bereavement:

When through the deep waters I call thee to go,
The rivers of woe shall not thee overflow;
For I will be with thee thy troubles to bless,
And sanctify to thee thy deepest distress.

Yes, indeed, for the true, born-again Christian, be he/she a tender 14-yr-old girl or a 98-yr-old saint pining away in a nursing home, “to depart, and to be with Christ, is far better” (Phil. 1:23). As a singer named Sara Groves put it, may you, dear Stauffer family, in the wake of this loss, this tragedy—by God’s glorious grace alone—“gain such a strength from what is tearing you apart,” both now, and in the days and years to come. “ALL THINGS” (Rom. 8:28).


10. Laura D
October 6, 2008
12:24 PM

Thank you for sharing this Tim. I was unaware of these events. I will be praying for the Stauffer family.


11. Elisabeth Doornink
October 6, 2008
5:52 PM

As a friend of the Stauffers who was able to attend the funeral…thank you, all, for your prayers. Emily was a dear friend of mine, and there is one thing enduring from our long conversations - that Emily loved those around her because she loved Jesus, and that she longed to be seen as not a perfect pastor’s daughter who didn’t ever sin, but as a redeemed daughter of the Most High King who was most definitely not perfect, but most definitely living for Christ. Now she is perfect…without sin…and so full of joy, and completely and utterly fulfilled. She got what she had always wanted….what she had only ever really wanted. To be with Jesus.

Even in death, Emily proclaims the gospel. To God be the Glory.


12. sarah
October 6, 2008
9:56 PM

Psalm 56:8
You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?

Great is His compassion and mercies!


13. Terry Stauffer
October 7, 2008
8:40 AM

Thank you, Tim, and thanks to each commenter (particularly Elisabeth).

God is continuing to carry us.