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Friday June 20, 2008
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Proverbs 31 2K1

"An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels." So begins what is undoubtedly the most famous (or most notorious) chapter of Proverbs. Written by King Lemuel, this chapter, the thirty-first, includes a poem praising the excellent wife. It has provided fodder for shelves of books and for countless sermons. You know it well, I am sure. Though the verses are most often preached and applied to women, within the context of the book it seems to me that the verses were really meant to be for young men. In this passage they are to see the kind of woman who is so unlike the temptress, the sluggard and many of the other characters in Proverbs. Of course it also stands as a valuable challenge to godly women.

There is much we can say about this excellent wife, but lately my thoughts have been drawn to one aspect of her life. Throughout the poem we read lines that suggests this excellent wife runs a small business--she is an entrepreneur. As part of her life as a mother and wife she buys and sells, builds and trades. She supplements the family income and gives to the poor through the money she earns in this business venture.

She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.

It merits mention that nowhere in the Bible would we find that this portrayal is normative for all women; we do not have to believe that a woman cannot be a faithful wife and mother unless she runs some kind of business. But I do know many women, aspiring Proverbs 31 women, who have begun businesses. In fact, I've been impressed lately in the ways I've seen Christian women exercising a lot of ingenuity in emulating that Proverbs 31 woman. They are finding ways of turning what they love to do into small businesses. The context has changed, of course. I do not know too many who are buying and selling fields and planting vineyards. But I have seen many reacting to the new realities of the twenty-first century by creating other kinds of businesses. They are Proverbs 31 women for the twenty-first century.

Here are just a few examples:

The common thread with these jobs is that they can all be done from the home and they can all be done in "spare time" (something of an oxymoron when it comes to mothers!). These women are doing jobs that allow them to adapt to new realities and allow them to place their families first, even while earning supplemental income.

I would love to know of other similar examples of how Christian women today are creating their own small businesses (and in the future I hope to create a post showcasing some of them). If you have such a business or if you know someone who does, please leave a comment and tell us about it.

Comments (32) »


1. Jennifer
June 20, 2008
10:09 AM

Hey Tim! My name is Jennifer and I am currently finishing up a course in Medical Transcription. I hope to be able to work for some doctors from home to add to my family’s income. I would appreciate many prayers in this endeavor.


2. Eric S. Mueller
June 20, 2008
10:13 AM

My wife hasn’t started a business yet, but in efforts to save us money and protect us and the children from potentially harmful processed products, she has begun making many of her own supplies, including toothpaste, lanudry and dishwasher detergent. I’ve thought about encouraging her to try to sell some through a site like Etsy, but at this point she’s not interested.


3. David West
June 20, 2008
10:14 AM

My wife has brought income into the house in a variety of ways over the years. She has sold curriculum to homeschoolers and helped with record keeping for a number of families (a business passed to her from my mother). That business continues but has declined some and so she has found and taken a babysitting opportunity. Three hours each day, a little girl is dropped off at our house, as her parents work schedule overlaps. My wife found this opportunity by posting an add on Craiglist and then allowing the parents to visit and interview us.
She has also taken a job part-time which isn’t entrepreneurial but still allows flexibility and working out of the home. She takes pictures for real estate listings. Loading the children up in the car, she drives a route she has mapped ahead of time, shoots the pictures, then uploads from our home office. She found this job searching online as well and it has helped our family budget greatly. She is amazing - maybe excelling the Proverbs 31 wife. :)


4. Susan
June 20, 2008
11:04 AM

My friend Sheri is such an example to me. She has started her own jewelry business and has been very diligent in creating, marketing, and selling her product. God has blessed her with artistic abilities and she has put them to good use. Check it out www.sheripray.com


5. New England Girl
June 20, 2008
11:09 AM

I am a stay-at-home mom and I do freelance editing and graphic design work, including book design, magazine ads, and editing of web site content and manuscripts. It’s the perfect job for our family, because as a freelancer I can accept and refuse projects based on the needs of our family and the busyness of our schedule. I have a friend who runs a web design company, and like me, mostly works during nap time and after the children are asleep.

Technology has really increased the ease with which people can work at home, and is a tremendous blessing to homemakers like me who are seeking to add a little to their families’ incomes. I do design work largely for Christian institutions and I appreciate the flexibility that God’s people have shown for the needs of my family and my work as homemaker. Refusing a particular project has never meant losing a client.

I’ve often thought about the entrepreneurial aspects of Proverbs 31, but I don’t hear it discussed often, so thank you, Tim, for mentioning it.


6. Tami
June 20, 2008
11:42 AM

I’ll echo what New England Girl wrote — I know many wives and moms who have freelance copywriting and project management jobs. They can take on as much as they want, and each project brings home a decent chunk of change. Granted, most of these women already had had jobs in communication prior to going freelance, so it wasn’t just a matter of saying “hey, I think I’ll be a writer!” but it’s a good way of using your former creative and/or office skills to earn a bit of extra money while still working from home.


7. manhattan doctor
June 20, 2008
11:53 AM

my wife, a mother of two, is one of the top doctors in her field in north america. she has smarts second to none, brings in a massive income, and is very driven. she fits the proverbs 31 woman to a T - really, she is quite an extraordinary woman, wife and mother.

she would also likely take issue with your very culture-based interpretation that the only jobs a proverbs 31 woman can legitimately have is one done part-time from the home, during spare time, and only to supplement income. Proverbs 31 does not support this tortured interpretation. while this blog has the semblance of being complimentary to women in general, it is really just a thinly-veiled reinforcement that the real heavy-lifting in life should be undertaken by the men. women, stick to your arts&crafts, knitting, and diaper-changing. we’ll throw you a bone once in awhile.

it is the kind of piece that makes my wife - who is highly and deservedly respected in the secular community - feel like a second class citizen when in church.


8. Ethan
June 20, 2008
11:58 AM

If I may plug Highlands Study Center (no affiliation, I just love what they do). They have four videos posted on YouTube titled “An Excellent Wife is More Precious than Rubies” (about an hour in total).

http://youtube.com/subscription_center?s=XdlTW2FmKco

R.C. makes the same point that Prov. 31 is aimed at men. These videos are well worth your time.

One more thing, although a small business for the wife is good, a business that can involve the entire family is even better. Think about ways you can involve your kids in the family economy.


9. C.
June 20, 2008
12:34 PM

I’m in the process of developing a translation/interpretation business in the Raleigh Durham area. I’m pretty small right now, but I hope I can make an impact with the hispanic community. I’d like to work most with immigration and business documents and interpretation (and share the gospel).


10. A friend
June 20, 2008
12:49 PM

Proverbs 31 was used by my ‘Christian’ wife as a motivation to establish a home-based business. The truth of the matter was this formed the financial basis for her to earn a living in preparation for divorcing me. Imagine my chagrin when I found out my Christian wife used this biblical foundation to establish ‘family friendly’ home-based employment in order to destroy the marriage and break up the family. I do not believe I am alone in seeing this sequence of events. There are several brothers across the church today who will recognize the pattern. Because of this experience, I have to make an effort not to cringe when I hear about Proverbs 31.

Relationships are complex. I am not saying that this caused the divorce. I am saying it still stings to consider where it will lead for many who start down the path.


11. mike
June 20, 2008
1:07 PM

On the line of buying and selling fields, my mom does much of the researching online that goes into my parents’ House-flipping business.


12. Jennifer Rahman
June 20, 2008
1:32 PM

The comments from “manhattan doctor” and “A friend” saddened me deeply. I have been married for almost 19 years and have worked outside the home (full time) for almost that entire time. After we had children, it was both my desire and my husband’s desire that I would be able to stay home. However, we had built our lives around a double income and were so far in debt that it wasn’t possible. It wasn’t until a few months ago that we were able to pay off our debt and I was able to come home full time with my children (who are now 13 and 9). Praise the Lord for that! I still need to bring in *some* income to supplement, but I am no longer the breadwinner of the family.

It saddens me that “manhattan doctor’s” wife feels like a “second class citizen” in church. For all the years that I had to work outside the home, nobody in the church made me feel that way. Any sadness I may have felt was completely self-inflicted: discontment with what God had for me at the time.

It saddens me that “A friend’s” wife would use Proverbs 31 as a way to break her marriage vows. Obviously, this is a distortion of what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman because any ventures the real Proverbs 31 woman entered into were to ENHANCE her family’s lives, not DESTROY them.

I am still looking for a part-time, home-based job or business for myself and I’m not entirely sure what it will be. It amazes me how so many women have found so many creative ways of making money at home. I know God will bring the right opportunity to me at just the right time.


13. Kacy LAtham
June 20, 2008
1:33 PM

I am a stay @ home graphic designer. I have two small boys and I am able to work during nap time and at night. I actually make more money than I did in my old part-time jobs. I make $50 an hour as opposed to the $9 to $25 per hour I made at various other jobs. I have a bachelors in art and I feel like I am utilizing my education as well as doing what is best for my boys. My work is advertised by word of mouth mostly, do any of you know where I can find a place to advertise my services? I can also print posters, invitations, business cards… If you know how I can market myself, please comment.

Thanks!


14. Reformed Mommy
June 20, 2008
1:35 PM

Before I became a mother, I worked in high tech executive sales and marketing, getting and loving everything manhattan doctor’s wife has - a six-figure salary, travel, respect and admiration, the works. I left it all to stay home with my children, not because I felt I would be more fulfilled or happy, but because I wanted to obey God and not be like the poor steward who buried what he was given ito care for in the ground. (MD - please note that I am not in any way saying that your wife is not obeying God, but rather I felt that in my field I could not keep my current job and care for my child/ren the way they in particular needed it.) Today I pursue the P31 model of leveraging my skills into a part time consulting business that benefits my family and community, in my case not making things but still working with my hands, or fingers anyway. :) As someone who is not naturally gifted at many aspects of motherhood, working part time forces me to focus, be more organized and work far more dilligently at home than when I am just at home fulltime. It keeps me engaged with my husband’s world (he works in the same industry) and in these uncertain times keeping up my skills is a way to maintain a safety net should my husband’s job suddenly go away (which has happened before.) I struggle greatly with thinking after the manner of Lot’s wife - looking back with regret and longing at my old life and what I thought I had. I do see how much of that was so temporal, so meaningless, and what I have now with my kids truly is eternal. To be honest, there are many days when that realization is actually supremely discouraging - I truly am a natural business woman and not a natural mother and while I know intellecutally the level of commitment and effort it takes to be a good parent, I am continually confronted with how totally incompetent I am. I live in such fear that one day my precious children will learn this too and that the consequences will be devastating, perhaps eternally. (Before, I believe part of my success actually came from the freedom of realization that everything in high-tech is so quintessentially, Ecclesiastically meaningless that any mistakes I made only had equally temporal consequences!) I still remain convinced from God’s Word that motherhood is truly a “saving”, or sanctifying process, and I do intellectually assent that, as far as I have to go, what I have learned about the power and grace of God has come most directly from this time. But I still have to fight for joy in it, and to be honest, would covet your prayers. I want to want the “well done” to come from my Heavenly Father, rather than any earthly employer, and I need His power and strength to make it happen. Oh, and I do have about 15 hours available for anyone needing help with excutive sales and marketing programs… :)


15. Kacy Latham
June 20, 2008
1:35 PM

sorry about the incorrect link


16. Trillia
June 20, 2008
2:56 PM

Hey Tim,

I have a small business Trill Fitness (www.trillfitness.com) where I am currently selling a CD, In His Strength, as a way to 1) promote Christian music specifically the music of Sovereign Grace Ministries to the fitness industry 2) provide a little supplemental income for my fam. 3) to give fitness instructors and anyone who enjoys upbeat music a chance to listen to or exercise to fun remixed music.

I am also an aerobics instructor which my husband has shared with me time and time again has been a blessing and help to him and our family. I love it and I am only a way for an hour and a half generally from the home. It’s a great way to serve my family and by the grace of God be a light to the fitness industry.

Thanks Tim!


17. Monica
June 20, 2008
4:44 PM

I have recently started a small business in hopes that it will be albe to supplement my husband’s income when we start having kids in about a year. I am making and selling purses on my Etsy site: www.bolsachica.etsy.com. I currently work for a publisher, and would like to take on freelance editing once I am home with the kiddos.


18. Kevin
June 20, 2008
5:29 PM

I’m not sure I agree with the tone of many, that implies that to be a biblical woman, she must be a stay-at-home mom first, and secondly if she does work, it should be in a home-based business.
My wife & I both work full time, and we both make a modest income. And I do not mean 6 figures. Without her income, we would not be able to provide well for our kids. Not all men are able to bring in an income that will pay a mortgage, groceries, etc, with the cost of living the way it is. God calls some men to be leaders, and some to be janitors. We are neither, but God has blessed my wife with the ability to be one of the the best in her field, and to not use that gift I believe would be wrong.
Our kids are loved and cared for as well as or better than many who have stay at home moms. You cannot equate the love and care a child receives by whether they are at home all day. In addition, I think our kids are learning to relate to other people very well because they are around a variety of people during the day. I also have faith in a God who will not let one of his own fall from the nest. We are raising our kids to be Christians, are praying for their salvation, and at some point they will have to choose Jesus, just as I did when I was 19.
My wife is a gift from God to me, and in my eyes, IS a Proverbs 31 woman. I support her 100%, and I know that she would be deeply hurt by the tone of some of these comments. I would encourage the stay-at-home moms to not judge the work-outside-the home moms, and vise-versa. If either one is doing what they do out of devotion to Christ, they are not sinning. If they are doing what they do out of a prideful self-righteosness, they are sinning, even if it is a good thing in itself.

In His Grace,
Kevin


19. Kathie Thomas
June 20, 2008
5:31 PM

I brought my corporate Secretarial/Admin skills home over 14 years ago to set up a business at home and be there for my 5 daughters as they were going through their school years. The eldest was approaching her teens.

Today I run a Virtual Assistant practice and a network of women like me worldwide - all from my home office. My girls have grown up with their mum home fulltime and they’ve also learnt great skills as they’ve each helped me in the office from time to time.

I feel so blessed that God guided me in this direction and that my own daughters, now in their 20s, entertain ideas of developing their own businesses and being home for their families, when that time comes.


20. Laurie
June 20, 2008
6:07 PM

When my husband and I married I took over his on-line used book business, which I run from home. He got a “real job”. We still don’t make enough for me to work entirely from home, which is what I’ve always wanted, but am down to working only eleven hours a week cleaning houses (which in my town means I make more per hour than most women I know, and more per hour than my husband). It may continue like this for some time anyway because of the blessing it is to be a blessing for the people I work for. These people have come to rely on me over the years and most of them are folks I’ve come to love dearly.

I think it is best for women to be workers at home when possible, but I realize that’s not always the case. I also remember the Proverbs woman had hired help, which enabled her to go about here and there for business and run her household in her absence. She no doubt left others in care of her children at least from time to time.

I’ve also noticed that the Proverbs passage is addressed to a man - a king in particular. Think of the kind of wife or wives a king might be tempted to take for himself. In contrast to what you, or he might dream of if he had his pick of all the beauties of the realm, his mother wants him to seek a virtuous, industrious and diligent wife, devoted to home and family, not a charming, vain, and lazy woman who would spend her time in frivolity and idle pursuits.


21. Laurie
June 20, 2008
6:10 PM

I forgot to reference Titus 5 in the above comment regarding working at home.


22. Carol Blair
June 20, 2008
7:02 PM

I have a “regular” job as a hospital lab tech, but I also have a background as a writer, editor, and teacher, and because I am saving for a house and for the future, I do free-lance writing, editing, and teaching. I have an M.A. in Writing and am a certified teacher, and my business is called “Strong in English.”

>>> Writing: I write articles for a lab tech magazine.

>>> Editing: I’ll edit/proofread just about anything for any organization or person (although my specialties are science/medicine and theology).

>>> Teaching: I teach classes in vocabulary building and writing that are primarily directed toward SAT/ACT preparation, but *anyone* — not just teens — would benefit from my classes. Here is a brief description of my course:
This course is an intensive study of vocabulary in preparation for any standardized test, as well as for life, so it would be of great benefit to anyone. The course features about 40 Latin and Greek roots, and based on them, an average of 5 English words *each.* Students will learn to recognize Latin and Greek roots—and therefore, essential meaning—in unfamiliar English words, thus greatly expanding their vocabulary. Other course topics included are grammar, punctuation, and principles of writing—as time and interest allow.

I am single, so I am able to travel for special, intensive editing projects and for teaching.

Carol Blair
Longview, TX


23. Jennifer
June 20, 2008
8:17 PM

Hi Tim,

I’ve got two for you: I used to sell Silpada Designs jewelry, which is kind of like Tupperware or Creative Memories or Mary Kay. They all boast low hours/good pay which works well for a mom! The only thing is that you have to leave the house for the actual parties - but I found them to be great for getting to know new people! I don’t sell anymore, but am still friends with the ladies who did parties with me.

The reason why I don’t sell is because I was hired to teach drama at a local homeschool co-op, which offers a variety of classes to over 300 homeschooled kids (whose parents come with them in most cases!). I only teach 2 hours a week, so it works out great! The other teachers all bring their kids with them. Mine are too young, but if I’m still teaching there in a few years, perhaps they can come with me as well!

blessings,
jennifer


24. Kacy Latham
June 21, 2008
1:27 AM

Before we were married, a couple gave me some advice, ” if you both work, live only on one income”. That worked great for us… we were married 5 years without kids. My paychecks went to the “extra” things and paying off debt. When I transitioned to home, we were already accustomed to living on his salary. I think that that is what is so hard for some. Sometimes, I think we set ourselves up for a double income life and have a hard time breaking free from the financial demands that we are accustomed to. We drive two older “paid for” cars. We don’t have cable or eat out much. It all depends on what we are willing to do without. I look at the choice: nicer newer stuff or being the hands on full-time mommy? No choice.


25. William Bausch
June 21, 2008
8:44 AM

My wife has a small business selling hair bows for little girls with three other stay-at-home moms in our church. The website is www.daisybows.com

It’s amazing how much this business has blessed her friendships and our church body. It’s not about the bows or the extra income; it’s about the fellowship, the prayer, and the accountability between women concerned with glorifying God.


26. Janet Billson
June 21, 2008
9:51 AM

Tim, I have a friend, Tonya Chapa, who makes custom-ordered beautiful signs.

Here’s the link:
http://www.fruitfulvinecreations.com/

One comment regarding the “tone” that some have complained about: It astounds me that grown-ups get their noses out of joint so easily. To his own Master each servant stands or falls. Seems to me, Tim was highlighting a particular segment of society (women who prefer to stay at home, but augment the family income with entrepreneurship) and if some other segment of society has chosen a different path, what’s it to them if they don’t agree?

What matters is that each of us is seeking to glorify God in all that we say or do. The amazing thing about that is that I can glorify God by reading a book to my 3 year old grandchild; and a dentist can glorify God by removing an abscessed tooth.

Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

Ecclesiastes 9:10 Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.


27. Chris in NM
June 21, 2008
12:26 PM

Tim- I am a music teacher by training, and homeschooled my own now-grown children. So I could teach the proverbial music lessons, but I didn’t want to commit the kind of time that required to run a full studio. Instead, I started a choral arts program in our community for homeschooled kids. (http://lahomeschoolchorus.googlepages.com/)
We meet once a week and perform twice a year. I also teach classes to homeschooled students in other areas of my interest (composition, worldviews, music appreciation). (http://mrsfinnegansfellows.googlepages.com/) I teach one morning a week currently, leaving my primary time at home ministering to my family, our church family, and our community. When my children were still home, they were in all the classes I taught. It was a good arrangement for us.
Thanks for this encouraging post!


28. Jennifer
June 21, 2008
12:39 PM

I must say a hearty AMEN to Janet B’s comment!!!!!!! It breaks my heart that every time this topic is brought up, that people turn it into a battle between stay-at-home moms and moms that work outside the home! I have been on both sides of the fence, and each one has its on set of challenges.
Can’t we just support each other to bring honor and glory to God in all that we do, whether what we are doing is outside or inside the home or both?


29. Amy
June 21, 2008
3:20 PM

Tim,

A few years ago, I bought a 1.5 acre field and sold it for a profit. I planted a grapevine soon after next to our garage. Still happens these days. :)


30. Craig
June 21, 2008
9:55 PM

Hi Tim - a great topic, well done! Interesting to see how many women are doing freelance writing/editing/graphics over the web. Is there a website directory somewhere that would allow people to find these businesses, and support them?


31. Debra
June 24, 2008
9:12 PM

A few of my friends from church who are all moms joined together to create a stationery business, Heavenly Press. It has become quite successful! www.heavenlypress.com


32. Laura
June 27, 2008
5:33 PM

I agree somewhat with MD. I felt like this post was saying that I wasn’t putting my family first if I worked outside the home. I’m a wife, mother, and an attorney. I feel (and my husband feels) like I do put my family first. I have taken a job making significantly less than I am capable of making because I want to spend time with my family. I work 8:30-5 each day, but I actually do leave at 5 every day and don’t work at home or on weekends. I do these things so that I can spend time with my family. My career choices seems odd to many of my colleagues. I’d love to be able to work from home, but right now that’s not feasible. I don’t like for people to think that I’m not valuing my family over my career when I’ve made significant sacrifices to put my family first.


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