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- 08/23/10
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A couple of years ago Paul (my pastor and co-elder at Grace Fellowship Church) wrote about an article in the Canadian media which stated that “The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada will recommend next month that all expectant mothers undergo screening for fetal abnormalities such as Down’s syndrome—not just those over the age of 35, as is the practice.”
Dr. Andre Lalonde, a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Ottawa and the executive vice president of the SOGC, said the society decided to issue the recommendation so that a greater number of women would have the option to terminate their pregnancies should fetal abnormalities be detected.“Yes, it’s going to lead to more termination, but it’s going to be fair to these women who are 24 who say, ‘How come I have to raise an infant with Down’s syndrome, whereas my cousin who was 35 didn’t have to?’” Dr. Lalonde said. “We have to be fair to give women a choice.”
“The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada will recommend that all expectant women younger than 40 be given nuchal translucency screening, followed by genetic counselling and amniocentesis if their risk for Down’s syndrome appears high.” Based on this article, Paul wrote:
I reject this proposal from personal experience. Although we rejected amniocentesis as an option in our son’s pregnancy (for the simple reason it might have killed him), we were given indicators through non-invasive testing that there might be a genetic problem. Readers of my blog will know that my son was born with a genetic defect labelled Williams Syndrome—a full-orbed physical and mental disability.Is my son an accident? A faltering of the progressive cycle of evolution? A drain on society and its money? A thing not as valuable as a fully-functioning “normal” person?
My son is my flesh and blood and his worth is bound up in the fact he was made in the image and likeness of God, knit together in his mother’s womb and held together by the grace and power of Jesus Christ right now. If he never moved a muscle, never spoke a word, never made my life happier at any point, he would be no less valuable to the One who made Him. And no less valuable to me.
One does not have to be at our church for long, or to be with Paul and his family for long, to see how much joy this boy brings to his parents, his sisters, and his church family. He is greatly valued and treasured because he is a treasure of great value. But in a sense this is largely irrelevant when it comes to this innate value and worth; the value of life is in the fact that it comes from God and is not affected by our desires, whims or preferences. Paul and his wife had no right to interfere with that life (and, thankfully, had no desire to interfere with it).
The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada recommends genetic counseling to those whose tests turn up anomalies or abnormalities. This counseling will, of course, address the issues that will be faced in raising a child with Down’s syndrome or another similar condition. It will raise abortion as the preferred course of action. In an article he published in response to discussion over the first article, Paul described his experience with genetic counseling:When my wife was pregnant with our son, we were advised to seek “genetic counseling” due to some statistical abnormalities that appeared during routine blood work. We made an appointment at the Credit Valley Hospital and met with a genetic counselor.We were told that there was a small percentage that our son would be born with Down Syndrome and advised to have an amniocentesis. The counselor spoke in hushed tones with a very serious look on her face then left us to watch a video.
The video showed two boys of equal age playing in a living room. One of the boys was cute and active and bright. The other was drooling on himself, with a disfigured face, frumpy clothes and awkward small motor skills.
The video asked us: Is this what you want?
The question, of course, is irrelevant. We do not get to decide if this is what we want. God gives life and we are to accept it as the treasure it is, whether that life is normal or marked by disability.
It is interesting to me that over time the issue of abortion has evolved from “Is this what you want?” (a matter of personal inconvenience) to “Is this what you want for your family?” (a matter of wider inconvenience) to “How can you do this to us?” (a matter of societal inconvenience). Those who learn that their child may be born with Down’s syndrome or another condition now feel pressure to abort this child for the good of society. They are often told, even if only tacitly, that to bring a disabled child into the world is unfair to everyone in society. It is, after all, my tax dollars that will need to support this child through special education and special vocation, and my children whose tax dollars will pay for his retirement. Paul writes about this pressure, saying “Parents are placed under enormous pressure when they walk in to medical establishments that pop off lots of statistics, show propaganda and use the power of suggestion. In our situation, I can identify all three of those things.”
John 9 tells of Jesus healing a man who had been blind since birth. You know the story. The disciples asked Jesus “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus replied simply “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.” Those words, “that the works of God might be displayed in him” take me right back to Paul’s article and to the deeper issue of aborting any children who are deemed abnormal. Not many parents today would wrestle with the issue of who sinned that a child was born blind. Neither would they wrestle with whether this child should even be born. Blindness would be sufficient cause for many parents, and perhaps even most parents, to abort the child and try again, hoping for a better result the next time. And yet this particular blind man was to serve a purpose that had been sovereignly ordained.
F.F. Bruce makes an important point about this story: “This does not mean that God deliberately caused the child to be born blind in order that, after many years, his glory should be displayed in the removal of the blindness; to think so would again be an aspersion on the character of God. It does mean that God overruled the disaster of the child’s blindness so that, when the child grew to manhood, he might, by recovering his sight, see the glory of God in the face of Christ, and others, seeing this work of God, might turn to the true Light of the World.” John MacArthur summarizes “God sovereignly chose to use this man's affliction for His own glory.”
I love Matthew Henry’s treatment of this passage. He draws out two applications for the fact that this man was born blind so that the works of God might be displayed in him. The first is that “the attributes of God might be made manifest in him.” Among the attributes of God seen in the life of this man are God’s justice in making sinful man liable to such grievous calamities and His ordinary power and goodness in supporting a poor man under such a grievous and tedious affliction. God’s goodness was specially and miraculously manifested in curing him. The second application is “that the counsels of God concerning the Redeemer might be manifested in him. He was born blind that our Lord Jesus might have the honour of curing him, and might therein prove himself sent of God to be the true light to the world. Thus the fall of man was permitted, and the blindness that followed it, that the works of God might be manifest in opening the eyes of the blind. It was now a great while since this man was born blind, and yet it never appeared till now why he was so.” This man had been born blind so that the power of God might be displayed in him.
Henry draws a final application: “the intentions of Providence commonly do not appear till a great while after the event, perhaps many years after. The sentences in the book of providence are sometimes long, and you must read a great way before you can apprehend the sense of them.” Those who abort their children do not read to the end of those long sentences. Rather, thinking selfishly and looking only a few words ahead, they make the terrible decision to end a life, destroying the gift of God. Henry also writes “Those who [do not regard God] in the ordinary course of things are sometimes alarmed by things extraordinary. How contentedly then may a good man be a loser in his comforts, while he is sure that thereby God will be one way or other a gainer in his glory!” (You may, as I did, have to read that last sentence a few times to gain the sense of it.) Those who choose abortion are unwilling to lose their comforts that God may gain His glory. This glory may not be miraculous as it was in the case of the man born blind, but God is glorified in every life that enters this world. Every one of us testifies to the Creator’s wisdom, power, love and goodness. Countless millions have been destroyed and tossed away and we have never been able to rejoice in the gift of life God gave them. We have not been able to marvel in the attributes of God displayed so clearly in their lives.
When we abort those who are infirm, physically or mentally, we destroy boys and girls, men and women, in whom we ought to see the works of God displayed. We miss out on marvelous opportunities to see the works of God displayed in their lives. We miss opportunities to see God’s glory increase, even if this involves a requisite decrease in our comfort. This ought to be a small price to pay.

I am a follower of Jesus Christ, a husband to Aileen and a father to three young children. I worship and serve as a pastor at
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Comments (19)
We all know people with children who disabilities. It’s heartbreaking to see, until you talk to the families. They never speak of the burden, never speak of a bad choice or bad luck. They never mention the heartache and sorrow.
These families to the person know that their child is chosen by God, so that indeed, “the attributes of God might be made manifest.”
They are the ones that know best.David, Red Letter Believers, www.RedLetterBelievers.com
Interesting article. I’m a pediatrician in the US and I find it very interesting and disturbing that that passed for genetic counseling. Especially with the “Is this what you want.” I do think if used properly, it’s a valid resource-useful in preparing for what is coming, to let you know what kinds of things to watch for and what kinds of preparation you need to do, but surely a parent shouldn’t be made to feel bad for keeping the child.I have, however, seen some babies born who have no chance of living to see their second day of life. They were found on ultrasound to have profound defects not consistent with life outside the womb. These are a terrible thing to see, and if the parents choose, we do all we can to save the life, although it is an effort in vain. The baby then gets poked, prodded, tubed, compressed in its few hours of life.My opinion after living through that is that if you decide to give birth to a baby like that, just hold it. Just hold it and cry and love it for all you can in its brief time on earth.
Tim,
Don’t forget also that when we abort babies, we not only miss opportunities to see God’s glory but we violate and transgress His Holy and good law by committing murder. This has consequences both personal and also at the national level.
Tim,
You’re lucky to have Paul and his family in your church! If Paul will excuse my meddling with his words. He said this about his son:
“If he never moved a muscle, never spoke a word, never made my life happier at any point, he would be no less valuable to the One who made Him. And no less valuable to me.”
Another version might end this way:
” … he would be no less valuable to the One who made Him. Knowing and believing this, how could he possibly be less valuable to me.”
Again, one of your best of the best articles Tim…
In Christ,
Dan…
Excellent article. But doesn’t the comment by F.F. Bruce—“This does not mean that God deliberately caused the child to be born blind in order that, after many years, his glory should be displayed in the removal of the blindness; to think so would again be an aspersion on the character of God. It does mean that God overruled the disaster of the child’s blindness”—contradict Matthew Henry’s assertion that “He was born blind that our Lord Jesus might have the honour of curing him, and might therein prove himself sent of God to be the true light to the world”?
Didn’t God make the issue clear in Exodus 4:11 when He said to Moses, “Who has made man’s mouth? Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind? Is it not I, the LORD?”?
Man, that gave me chills. It looks like we have descended to the point treating children like animals, “culling the herd” when we get a “bad” one. “Is this what you want?” What a horrible thing to put a parent through. God bless those who stay strong and bring that child, made in God’s own image, into this world.
Thank you for such a careful and God-honoring handling of a sensitive issue, Tim. I was over 35 when pregnant with my last child, and my obstetrician was consistently shocked that we consistently declined screening tests. He was very pleased that we wanted to have an ultrasound, because (in his words) we would need to decide at that time whether or not to terminate the pregnancy. “In my home country (Taiwan), we can abort anytime, even after twenty weeks. But after twenty weeks it becomes more difficult — the baby fights, the baby wants to live!” It was chilling.
It was also chilling to read a female clergy’s recent comments on the immigration legislation in Arizona; she protested “it is all too easy to deny a person’s human rights if you consider them as “less than human.” This may seem unrelated to your post, until you consider that she is also adamantly pro-choice.
Thank you Lori M. Bruce gets it wrong and the quote from MacArthur hints at the same thing.
I wonder if there will ever come a day when “they’ll” be telling us we HAVE to abort them? I hope and pray that we never see that day and that we always fight for our freedoms.
I have been married for 7 years and my husband and I are just now looking into trying to have children. We both want them one day soon, but I have learned on this journey that it is going to be difficult for me to conceive due to some complications that I have and it pains me to know that there are unwanted babies that get “tossed” aside, as you said, just because they are not “normal.” I would give anything to love and care for a child, any child, that God allowed me to conceive. It is strange how sometimes God allows the prolonging or delay or even prohibition of motherhood for those long for it, and yet those who take it lightly and for granted, selfishly abort the responsiblity of their actions.
Trusting God is the only inevitable truth I’ve found.
Thank you for your wonderful articles, Tim. I thoroughly enjoy reading them.
Touching and thought-provoking article, Tim.
My Aunt Mary had Down’s Syndrome. Admittedly, when I was a young girl, I was afraid of her. But I had no problem playing with her Etch-a-Sketch or reading her magazines. She entertained everyone by singing off-key to Bobby Darin from her stack of 45’s. She had a voracious appetite but always knew to compliment the cook. I watched my grandmother dote on her and laugh at all her jokes.
By the time I turned 21, my aunt had outlived her parents, and through a series of Providential circumstances, her care and hygienic needs fell to me. I vividly recall how I would wash her hair in the kitchen sink, laughing while making a beard with the suds, while needing to be mindful of the diabetic sores on her scalp. She may have been twice my size, but everything else about her was delicate.
Mary taught me something of what love looks like. She is gone now, but God is still gaining glory in my life through hers.
FF Bruce’s comments are definitely sound. God did not bring about the blindness, (Williams Syndrome, Downs Syndrome, a congenital heart defect etc etc). God sovereignly over-rules all of life, but is not necessarily the causal agency of all of what we see. Genetics, for one doesn’t work like that. A baby born with brain damage, does so because God didn’t intervene, at that crucial time when it had it’s umbilical cord wrapped around its neck, causing the hypoxic brain damage, which resulted in the baby being born with so many damages. A baby born with blue eyes does so because of the outworking of genetics, not because God somehow intervenes in choosing the colour of their eyes.
The Westminster Confession of Faith helps our understanding on providence:
II. Although, in relation to the foreknowledge and decree of God, the first Cause, all things come to pass immutably, and infallibly; yet, by the same providence, He orders them to fall out, according to the nature of second causes, either necessarily, freely, or contingently.
III. God, in His ordinary providence, makes use of means, yet is free to work without, above, and against them, at His pleasure.
IV. The almighty power, unsearchable wisdom, and infinite goodness of God so far manifest themselves in His providence, that it extends itself even to the first fall, and all other sins of angels and men; and that not by a bare permission, but such as has joined with it a most wise and powerful bounding, and otherwise ordering, and governing of them, in a manifold dispensation, to His own holy ends; yet so, as the sinfulness thereof proceeds only from the creature, and not from God, who, being most holy and righteous, neither is nor can be the author or approver of sin.
You will discover an unknown brother or sister in heaven someday, one that was spontaneously aborted.
Your grandfather had a friend, Judge Mitchell whose second son and youngest child was Down’s Syndrome. He was waiting for the bus in Lennoxville when it began to rain. I watched him and marvelled as he whirled around like a lame dirvish singing to himself. I was an unrepentant hippie at the time but I remember thinking as I watched him from the safety of a store window, “who really are the brain damaged, this fellow who loves the rain, or the rest of us normal people grumbling about the rain.
JB Challies
Elizabeth, my seven-year-old nephew has Downs. Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot to hear someone’s honest reflection about growing into love. It’s easier for me, because my nephew’s so young, but I wonder if my kids will struggle with it one day. Even if they do, you help me see that there’s beauty in that.
Whoa, Barbara. That was profound. Thank you.
SK,
Probably the most profound gift you could give your children in regard to your Down’s nephew is to model for them a compassion and appreciation for his differences, teaching them to love by your open-armed example.
God bless.
This issue really came to the fore for me a few years ago when my wife was pregnant with our daughter. People kept asking what we were having, and when we told them that we had decided to keep the sex a surprise until the baby was born, the next question was obviously whether we would prefer a boy or girl. When we replied that it didn’t matter, people would often say, “Just so long as it’s healthy, right?”
My wife’s brother has cerebral palsy, and it really got us thinking about such statements. I understand that people mean well when they say such things, but what if you have a child that is NOT healthy? What if your child is born with Down’s Syndrome, or cerebral palsy? Do you NOT want it then?
Stuart,
I understand your thoughts on this as my wife and I were also genetically challenged during our daughter’s prenatal lifetime. We had numerous ultrasounds and also chose to not know the gender until birth. I try to hear these wishes for a healthy baby simply as informal spontaneous prayers for the same.
Of course all prayers must be concluded with: “Not my will Father, but yours alone.”
In Christ,
Dan…
I agree completely, Dan. I just think people don’t always think before they speak, though they certainly mean well.
Wonderful article. Actually, I was in a conversation this week regarding children with special needs in our church. I am so thankful that believers are willing to stand up and fight for the value of life and specifically for the unborn—regardless of whether the child has a handicap (physical or mental). In my conversation this week, however, we were discussing how this plays out over the course of such a child’s life (and later adult) regarding their special needs. Like I said, it is crucial that we stand up for the unborn—it is biblical. But then how do we, as believers, practically show that we value these individuals and how do we rally around the families, as well. I have not seen a good model of this and would love any resources or examples.
I know of families in our city who have children with special needs in varying degrees and at different churches. I feel as though they carry a lot that we (the body of Christ) are not aware of. I do believe and have seen the joy that their children are. And yet I don’t know how we (the body of Christ) can step in and help with these special needs and also set an example in how we do value these precious lives.