Lessons from Tiger

Shortly after Aileen and I were married we moved to the small town of Dundas, Ontario. A historic and picturesque town, Dundas has made its way into a few movies. When we lived there, a movie called Haven (starring Natasha Richardson) was shot in its streets. We lived just half a block from the action so would sometimes wander on over in the evenings to watch what was happening.

One thing that fascinated and impressed me was how the filmmakers transformed the town to fit the setting of the film. The movie was set in the Second World War so for the sake of historical accuracy the town had to look like it had during the 1940’s. All the parking meters had to be pulled up and all the traffic lights had to be pulled down. The streets were suddenly filled with beautiful old antique cars. Many of the storefronts were little changed since the 40’s but of course there were some that had been built since and could not possibly pass the historic test. It was amazing to see what happened to these ones. In a matter of a couple of days the props people constructed false fronts for all of these stores. An ugly stucco building that was clearly a product of the 70’s or 80’s was transformed into a brick-built small-town general store from the 40’s. Nothing had changed inside, but the outside was given a fresh and entirely deceptive new face.

One of the climactic scenes of the movie has the lead character marching a large number of Jewish refugees through the town. They shot this scene and a few others and then, nearly overnight, the town was restored. The parking meters were put back into place, the traffic lights were strung back up, the old cars were hauled away and all those false fronts were torn down. The ugly buildings were exposed again, as ugly as ever. The movie, anti-American propaganda as it turns out, was awful. But that’s beside the point.

I was thinking about Tiger Woods this weekend and thought about the town of Dundas and all of those false fronts. I’ve hesitated to write about Tiger. First of all, his travails are reaching the point of media saturation, I think. His story has been glamorized and made into a sick form of entertainment. Of course it’s exactly the kind of entertainment our culture loves. We love reality shows which, by and large, are only pseudo-reality. We get to watch families fall apart on television and consider it entertaining. But even then the situations are only half real at best. But here we get to see a real family crumble. Their pain is our delight as we watch things turn from bad to worse. Yet here we are all seeing the ugly effects of sin and maybe it is a good opportunity to reflect for just a few moments on the nature of sin and the cost it demands from us. It proved an opportunity for me to think about Tiger’s situation and draw lessons from it.

Here are three lessons I have learned from Tiger Woods.

False Fronts Will Crumble
There is always this temptation to construct false fronts, to add a layer of respectability between yourself and the way you want others to perceive you. Tiger Woods wanted to be known as the all-American family man, a loving husband and doting father. His sponsors, the companies for whom he was a spokesman, needed him to be this kind of figure. And so he said all the right words and put on this veneer of respectability. In front of the cameras he played the role that was demanded and expected of him. And yet behind it all he was the opposite of so much that he claimed to be. Eventually and inevitably the false front collapsed and the truth was laid bare.

Imagine what would have happened in Dundas if the filmmakers had disappeared without tearing down those false fronts. Sure they would have stood for a month or two; maybe even a year or two. But before long they would have crumbled and fallen down. They were not build of sound materials and were not built on a solid foundation. They were made only to look the part, only to disguise the ugly and unfitting reality. All false fronts will eventually crumble and fall.

The lesson is, do not mask your sin behind a false front. Do not construct elaborate falsehoods to mask your sin and your shame. These false fronts cannot stand forever. And the shame and pain of the ruin of a life lived out behind false pretenses will be far worse than the shame and pain of just dealing with sin immediately and properly. The temptation to mask your sin is nearly as strong as the temptation to sin in the first place. But to mask it is just to compound sin upon sin. It is merely to delay the inevitable.

You Cannot Hide Your Sin Indefinitely
Sooner or later your sin will find you out. Just weeks before all of his sins were revealed and his life was laid bear, Tiger conducted an interview in which he insisted that family comes first in his life. “Family first and golf second. Always be like that?” asked the interviewer. “Always,” replied Woods. Yet even then he was in the midst of affairs. Even then he was telling bare-faced lies, thinking that he could get away with them.

The lesson is, you cannot hide your sin forever. Your sin is going to find you out. Your sin wants to find you out. I love how J.R.R. Tolkien displays this in The Lord of the Rings, how the ring puts the ringbearer under its spell but at the same time it wants nothing more than to captivate and expose and destroy him. Its beauty and desire is really a means to enslave and expose. And all sin is like this. It promises what it can never truly deliver. It offers the desires of the heart but delivers the most tragic and unexpected results.

Do not give yourself over to sin. Sin is a cruel, cruel master. Like that ring it will draw you in and like that ring it will chew you up and spit you out. And isn’t this what Satan loves? Wouldn’t he love to draw you into sin and then enjoy watching you suffer the downfall of that sin? Do not give yourself over to sin; inevitably you will find that it is impossible to hide it forever.

The Stage Will Be Bigger
Tiger Woods committed sins against God and sins against his wife and did so in a closed and private setting. Very few people knew about his sin and very few were there to witness it. The actual sins were committed in private on a small, intimate stage. But the stage for his fall is international. Where only the smallest handful of people knew about his sin while it was happening, today countless millions know about it. The other day in the grocery store I spotted his face on eight of the ten magazines by the checkout. People are calling this the sports story of the decade. It will follow him for the rest of his life. His family will never be the same. Surely he did not anticipate all of this when he indulged his sin.

The lesson here is that the stage for the fall is usually infinitely larger than the stage that was used to act out the sin. Private sins are so often publicly exposed. Think of people you know, perhaps in a church context, who have sinned against their families. So often they sinned in private but were exposed in public. So often their disgrace was so much wider than their initial pleasure. And again, this is exactly what we should expect of sin and of Satan. Sin’s pleasure is fleeting, its pain eternal.

Tiger’s sin teaches me that the Bible does not lie when it describes the cause of sin, the effect of sin and the inevitability of its exposure. Had Tiger just read the first nine chapters of Proverbs and applied those ancient but timeless lessons to his life, he would have known all he needed to know to understand where his sin would lead him. How much better would it have been for Tiger to be mastered by God instead of being mastered by sin.

Comments (17)

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Anonymous's picture

Yes, and accurate post..

The only thing I would add is that each of us needs to realize that no one is immune to this kind of fall. Each of us has fallen in one way or another. For some, that fall may not yet be here. But in some way it will happen. Such is human nature and the state of the fallen world.

There is a cost exacted for being a person of notoriety and wealth. Few “normal” people know what is like to live with a camera shoved into their face at all times. I can go out to eat some place or shop and not be hounded by other people. Celebrities lead strange lives that many of them are ill-equipped to handle. Tiger is just another in a long line of well-known people who failed to handle it well.

Sometimes we forget how fragile we humans are. God made us strong, but sin tore that strength away. When each of us forgets that we are dust, bad things happen, and the sin that was crouching at the door springs.

My hope is that Christians will resist playing into celebrity culture. I remember when Michael W. Smith came to Wheaton when I was a student. His wife was a grad and they had come for her class’s homecoming. They were attempting to eat a meal in the cafeteria and were mobbed by people. I asked those in the mob whom I knew to let the Smiths eat their meal in peace. But too many people had stars in their eyes.

Christians buy many of the celebrity gossip mags. Christians follow “American Idol” en masse. We talk about celebrities too much. We make judgments on their lives. Many of us think ourselves morally superior and incapable of doing the “stupid” things that celebrity did. Yet at he same time we are fascinated by the celebrity and his or her sin.

How different the world would be we Christians used the same measure to judge our own lives as we use to judge others. I think more of us would be humble and more forgiving of the person who blows it big time. Maybe fewer pastors would crash and burn. Maybe we’d all be quicker to love the person who fails because we recognize our own failures.

Wouldn’t it be great if each of us reading this today wrote Tiger Woods to let him know that we will pray for him and his family for the next year? Wouldn’t that be in keeping with the Lord’s attitude toward people who blow up big time?

Wouldn’t it be great if the Church led with love first in all things?

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Anonymous's picture

Tim,

Good truths to reflect on. Mark Haines on CNBC was just razzing Tiger’s sponsors about Tiger’s sins. Haines did it in such a pompous manner as if he is so much better. What Haines and many do not realize that there is a sense in which I am Tiger Woods and this includes Haines, you and everyone.

Thanks,Mark

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Anonymous's picture

Does not the Scripture make the lessons you learned from Tiger’s sin quite clear without mentioning anyone named Tiger Woods. I submit that you used Tiger and his sin in almost the same way as those producers used your home town.

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Anonymous's picture

Had Tiger just read the first nine chapters of Proverbs and applied those ancient but timeless lessons to his life, he would have known all he needed to know to understand where his sin would lead him.

Not quite. One ingredient is missing…the regenerating and then illuminating work of the Holy Spirit. Without the work of the Spirit, Tiger attempting to apply the truths contained in Proverbs would amount to nothing more than works-righteousness.

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Anonymous's picture

Great observations.

Private sins are so often publicly exposed. Yes, although I think it depends upon how well-known someone is as to just how large the stage upon which they fall is.

Surely he did not anticipate all of this when he indulged his sin. Perhaps not, but surely thoughts along these lines crossed his mind at some point. Perhaps he didn’t allow himself to think on them much, perhaps he just “hoped for the best.” Perhaps he went deep into denial and rationalization; perhaps he was just foolish and reckless. Few of us are likely aware of the extent to which we deny, justify, and rationalize our sin.

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Anonymous's picture

Tim,

The illustration you used at the outset is really quite effective. Thank you for this!

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Anonymous's picture

Nice post. Good conviction for me.

I’m capable of any sin really. However, when I am walking in the light by the grace of God, I hope I can help others, and even encourage others, who may be struggling, to come into the light as well.

And as for Tiger, I pray the Lord would pour out His great mercy upon him, and his wife, and bring Tiger to Himself, and to the Cross. Amen.

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Anonymous's picture

Powerful.

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Anonymous's picture

As a co-laborer of mine observed, Tiger and his family need a good pastor.

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Anonymous's picture

Sadly, this happened in our church this summer. A father and husband who was a leader in our church-trustee, and worked in our AWANA ministry, decided he didn’t want to be married anymore. Wanted to pursue an acting career, didn’t want counseling, wanted to act like 20 years of marriage never happened. He had many false fronts. His wife was willing to work things out, admitting it takes two to restore a marriage, but he would have nothing to do with it. We had to follow biblical discipline. Their marriage problems known by very few, were made public to our congregation when he failed to repent and ask forgiveness. Again, sadly, this happens not only to celebrities, but to people in the pew.This was a great post.

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Anonymous's picture

Excellent analysis of the Tiger Woods situation. He may be the most famous example of this type of behavior, but I think we should consider Jesus’ response to this: “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” Ultimately, we ALL need to look inwardly at ourselves and seek to change any areas of our lives which will positively impact our daily walk with Jesus Christ.

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Anonymous's picture

Great post, Tim. Well stated, well put. Thank you for this.

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Anonymous's picture

As a believer I am often overwhelmed that I have an an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ. When I sin, it grieves me and I know that He is faithful and just to forgive me and cleanse me!

Oh how Tiger and anybody who does not have God as their Father needs this!

Great read. Thank you.

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Anonymous's picture

I agree that, without Christ and the redemptive power of the resurrection, this talk about Tiger is a little moot. I hate to say it, but the sin of adultery is not his biggest problem spiritually at this point. It is, of course, a good reminder for those of us who are believers to be mindful of our sin, but it doesn’t quite work.

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Anonymous's picture

Having no power and little money can be a great thing. Having power, fame and everything you want is an easy path to self-destruction.

Too bad Tiger did not consult Solomon.

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Anonymous's picture

Friends,I am happy for Tiger,I sincerely hope he will repent.That his sin is exposed here on earth IS BETTER FOR HIM.There are many even much higher LEVEL leaders (Spiritual, Economic and Political leaders) who are into this same type of sin and even worse and are never exposed.However, on the gate of heaven they will be denied. Tiger has all the opportunities now to repent and amend his way. I am concern about those who sin is still cover and will remain over.

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Anonymous's picture

In 1996 Earl Woods, Tiger’s father was quoted in Sports Illustrated as saying “Tiger will do more than any other man in human history to change the course of humanity. Because he’s playing a sport that’s international. Because he’s qualified through his ethnicity to accomplish miracles……He is the Chosen One. He’ll have the power to impact nations. Not people. Nations. The world is just getting a taste of his power.

The quote in and of itself is quite sad and disturbing. How careful we must be as parents and believers in Christ not to fall in to the same traps Earl and Tiger have. I don’t expect anything different than what we have witnessed from unbelievers. How quickly we believers can take God’s blessings and pervert them as well. As believers we must keep our hearts and mind informed by God’s word and devoted to Christ alone.