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Faux Pas?

I’m going to give you an opportunity to end a friendly little marital dispute. Feel free to chime in through the comments section as we try to solve this one.

Aileen believes it is rude to ask yourself over to another person’s home. I disagree. I see nothing wrong with asking a person if we can come over either just to hang out or even for lunch. This may be as simple as saying, “So how about we come by your house for lunch after church next Sunday?” I’ve been known to do this and Aileen thinks it is rude. She’s actually a little embarrassed when I do this.

Now let me qualify by saying that I am thinking of someone who is not a complete stranger and neither is it a family with whom we are very close.

So tell me, am I committing some horrible social faux pas or is it acceptable for me to ask someone else if they’d like to have us over?

PS – Paul – Depending on the outcome of this discussion I may owe you an apology and may have to retract an email I sent you not too long ago!


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